What should i do?Do u think what i did was right?

Question

i met this guy online few months back and we fell for each other.We stay in different parts of the country but still took time to meet each other.I am bit heavy ,not that i look bad but i cannot call myself thin .The guy i met was nice to me .As we started dating,he told that he would love if i lost some weight and i promised him i would .I am trying and have seen good results.I am pretty busy making my career also but i still work out The problem is this guy now keeps on asking me the deadline to which i would loose weight .This had started bugging me because i thought he loved me and would trust in me .Now i feel as if he is only interested in the outer beauty aspect and doesnt appreciate my other qualities which i am proud of.He is a very average lukin guy but really expects a lot out of me.He thinks himself to be so much better looking than me which i realised recently.I had big plans with him but i told him to find someone else as i feel so sick with him and his thoughts.

Answer 1

Sounds like you did the right thing. you know sweetie I am heavy myself, but God is helping me w/ my lifestyle change in loosing weith, etc. The weight loss has to be for YOU noone else. If a fella is interested he will accept all yoru hips, dips, and thighs. Those things will be as beautiful to him as Halle Bery's shape woudl be to some other guy. Lose the weight for you and move on to the man God has really predestined for you life. The bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made,the apple of God's eye!This fella was a countfeit, The Lord will not send you such he willonly send the best for his child. Don't compromise, settling for average is aiming for the mud, and you'll hit it everytime. I pray you know Christ and that that you pray and ask him to send the right person at the right time and I promise he will do it just for you. God Bless You.

Answer 2

I think you did the right thing. When you are in a relationship, you should be interested in the finer qualities ,the inner beauty, not what is on the outside. As you were saying you are trying and with some success to lose weight that should be good enough for him. Good luck to you and you will find mr. Right when you least expect it. God Bless you. I give you all the credit in the world for trying to lose the weight to make someone happy but you have to do what makes you happy. Hugs.

Answer 3

Get rid of him, he says he loves you but does not show appreciation for the actual person that you are. Wether your a twig or a big mama, you deserve way better then some guy who is giving you a timeframe for beauty when u have had it all along. Knock him off the curb girl and keep walking you'll find yourself a real man. Remember it starts out as one flaw in you and then it ends up being you as the flaw. Don't let that happen

Answer 4

Good for you this guy was not only controling but I am certain that he did not mean you the sort of good you were looking for. Dump him and do not look back Keep working out and go at your own pace. You are happy with the results so far, good for you and keep on going. anyone that is going to put demands and deadlines on someone is not a good risk for love.

Answer 5

Good for you! I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that "he is only interested in the outer beauty and doesn't appreciate my other qualities..." Who is he to ask you to lose weight?? Is he perfect? He is shallow and superficial, and if all he is interested in is the exterior, superficial appearance of a woman, that is all he is ever going to get, shallow and superficial. He does not appreciate your inner beauty. You did the right thing by letting him go. You deserve someone who appreciates all of you.

Answer 6

It is very hard to lose weight, especially if someone gives you a deadline to do it by. I don't know if he was concerned for your health or just wanted a better looking piece of arm candy. But if he is making you unhappy, there are a lot of other nice guys out there.

Answer 7

gitl u did the right thing.Who does this loser think he is?It doesnt matter how u look what matters is what is on the inside.I mean really. Iwa sonce in a place liek urs,i met this one guy and he was thinking he was all that but we were friends .When we started goin out, i realized what a snot-ball he is.so i dumped him.What is the use of dating a shrek prince charming?Just wait the right guy will come just like mine did

Answer 8

hrm, is the pictures you post up different from the real you. if not, then I don't see a good reason for him to complain so much. he went and met with you right? he was interested enough to meet with you. if your pictures are different, but dated you, then he likes your personality. well, he's honest enough to tell you to lose some weight. sounds like you're trying to lose weight. you have to weigh it. is he worth your time for you to put up with what he's saying, doing? if not, you can lose him because there's plenty of other guys out there who wouldn't mind the weight.

Answer 9

Do not look over your shoulder... Think about what you would be getting yourself into... Chances are, as you age you will gain a little. Do you want to be married to someone who not only notices and cares, but tell you that you need to do something about it?? Only hot rich guys get trophy wives, who the heck does he think he is?? Let him go and don't think about him again. If you want to lose weight for you, do it. But never let someone else tell you how to be...

Answer 10

Let him go! If he keeps pushing this weight issue he ain't worth it. Continue with the weight lose if you want & you will meet someone way better. If you don't want to lose weight then don't. There's plenty of guys who like a girl with some meat on them!