my friend told me once that guys are intimidated by girls who are extremely pretty. he told me that he would rather go for a girl who was average than a girl who was gorgeous. is this true?
2006-11-24 14:06:55 · 22 answers · asked by Mad Jack Wants To Help. 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Well sweety the reality is that everybody wants to be beautiful and aspire to it work hard for it, but you know what. I've learned in my lifetime that my beauty is a blessing and it can be a curse, yes I said curse. When you are beautiful to look at people judge you, hate you, despise you, are jealous of you, you can even be judged harshly because you are beautiful. Then there is also the admiration, praise, things you get, people respond better to beauty, but it is such a superficial, fleeting, fading thing. So what I do is work on my inner beauty and try to be a good, giving, kind person. That way I don't rely on the beauty and I know that people are drawn to me because I am pretty, but they like me because I have a good heart. Being beautiful is really overated and you might find that it is and can be lonely, people (men) think they have you pegged, that you are stuck up, a snob, a gold digger bc you are pretty. I know that pretty women and some men are the lonliest people, trust me it's true bc everybody thinks you always have a date already, or a man, or you are married, so nobody's asking you out, or they are too afraid to talk to you bc they think that you won't talk to them or give them the time of day. Then there is the flip side you have men who you wouldn't normally give the time of day to that are not afraid to step up to you bc they have nothing to lose they are use to rejection or they are just not intimidated. It is a private hell for me to be beautiful, but in all honesty I'd rather be tall, shapely, and gorgeous than not to be. I deal with the loneliness and absue that comes with it. There's a price to pay for all good things, especially being beautiful. Then you have people who always expect you to be perfect when you really aren't, nobody is, it's really a weird thing to have to deal with.
2006-11-24 14:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by TIA 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
yes being pretty can intimidate some guys. So many times when I approach guys they always seem to say that they would'nt have had the courage to speak to me on their own and that they get a little nervous when talking to me. Others will just stare and not say a word at all. I don't know why some guys do this because we are human just like anyone else. and we shouldn't be put into a catergory of stereotypes like every single one of us are unapproachable and we're too into ourselves or too stuck up because that is not always the case. Everyone deserves to have a clean slate when first spoken to.
2006-11-24 14:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by *Im Your Wifeys Role Model* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have to say two things right off --
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; and beauty (appearances) is only skin deep.
True beauty is in the mind, heart and soul (and I'm definitely thinking of my love who is beautiful in every possible way!)
Those things said, I have noticed among women friends that some have experienced that, while others did not.
For those who experienced that "intimidation" effect, it was sometimes due to their personalities and other times due to the personalities of the men they met.
Self confidence does not come from superficial appearances, although (sadly) often in our "beauty-conscious" society the impacts of not measuring up to an artificial ideal of beauty does negatively affect the psyches of many people.
The artifice of "glamorous beauty" dictated by the trend of the era imposes unrealistic expectations on those who are unable to understand that.
The notion that one's one self-worth is valued more or less based on what is or is not "beauty" is a notion that cuts both ways.
A so-called "good looker" may be as neurotic about having good looks as a "less attractive" person is about not having them.
2006-11-25 09:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bender 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To some degree, yes. If a guy feels like the pretty girl might not like him because there are hotter guys available to her, he probably won't give her a chance. If you have this "problem" (I sure as **** don't), then it is up to you to flirt with the guy you want.
2006-11-24 14:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes is truth and if that pretty girl is smart it will be worst... Males get so intimidated by pretty smart girls trust me it gets worst if that girl is independent and her self steem is not low then males will get very intimidated by that pretty one. Males like women that are not smart and not independent etc etc.
2006-11-24 14:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The losers and underclassmen in the social stature feel that way. The main alpha's only go for those type of women, so don't worry, everyone has their place in the web.
2006-11-24 14:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. If he think he's all that then he will fall for a pretty girl and think ugly girls are ****, but if he is a guy with a good heart then he won't care about look
2006-11-24 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by MiChY * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has more to do with your friends confidence than how pretty the girl is.
2006-11-24 14:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by kewlkat103 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm? Hot girls are intimidating, but i guess, for me, it all comes down to the personality of the girl. But i won't date the girl if she is butt ugly, NO MATTER WHAT!
2006-11-24 14:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Illogical.
2006-11-24 14:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by sa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋