I dont like sex, but I have invested to much in this thing to?

Question

leave, problem is, HE ALWAYS wants it and its starting to irritate me, is it ok if he gets it elsewhere if he never see's the person again?

Answer 1

What, do you think that just once is going to satisfy his "HE ALWAYS wants it" sex drive?

It'd be kind of hard to "never see the person again" if he wants more sex and you're not willing...

You've "invested too much in this thing"? What is this - a marriage, or a stock market?

Answer 2

I read a feminist quote earlier that said "No finance no romance"

Maybe the reverse should apply "No romance no finance"

And out of curiosity, What have you invested that would be worth so much that your will to let what most people consider to be a very intimate act slip away. That is not a very wise investment strategy.

Oh by the way, what happens when he leaves you because he is tired of investing his time in someone who does not share his desires and wants to see that same person over and over again. Will you be so willing then or will he be a two timing good for nothing low down sorry Man.

Answer 3

First of all, I've been reading a lot of responses saying something along the lines of, "Well if you're not giving it to him, he has to get it sometime, somewhere." That's not necessarily the case. If he really loved you and you have told him how you feel, you two would work something out. If you feel comfortable with allowing him to have sexual relations with other women because you do not have the sexual appetite to make love to him, then, allow him to. If you don't feel comfortable with it, then don't.
You also have the option to speak with your doctor about your lack of sexual desire. There may be an underlying cause to why you aren't in the mood or why you dont like sex at all. There may be a way to improve your sex drive, if you are willing to work on it. Otherwise, my suggestion would be to talk to him. If you two come to an agreement, then great! If not, then it wasn't meant to be to begin with. Good luck.

Answer 4

I think that you are suffering a conditions known as Inhibited sexual desire (ISD). The person with ISD fails to initiate or respond to their partner's desire for sexual activity.
ISD is a very common sexual disorder. The most common cause of ISD seems to be relationship problems wherein one partner does not feel emotionally intimate or close to their mate.
Communication problems, health problems such as depression, insomnia, excessive stress. Approximately 30% of men and women are affected by it.
If you "invested" in your marriage isn't it better to try to get treatment and enjoy sex then to allow husband a sex on side. How you can be sure that he will not see this person again he most likely will believe me if he likes sex he will like a woman who is good in bed for him.
Treatment is required by the professional therapist and it depends on the eliminating causes listed above.

Answer 5

Relationship is out of Balance.

Ask this question of your self? Is this problem unique to this Man or men in general.

Intimacy is an integral part of a Male and Female relationship.

Seek Professional help....either as an individual or a couple.

Leaving is the easy thing to do, if there are no children.

If you do leave and decide to date again, you may be in the same situation. He wants it, I don't.

Good Luck to you.

Mav

Answer 6

No it isn't. Let me explain what will happen, we men associate intimacy with love. We will fall in love with the person that we are being intimate with as long as they treat us right. So by doing what you are thinking, you would only open the door to loosing your husband to another woman. You state that he would never see the other woman again, after this encounter you would be okay with him asking for intimacy often again? OR would he have to just change partners? Look into the main problem, what makes you not want to be with your husband, discuss it and hopefully you might get to enjoy intimacy or your husband be less demanding. Talking worked for my marriage, hope you can save yours. Good luck!

Answer 7

are you married? you haven't said if just dating or married.

If single I would let him go. Although you spent time as yousaid and so much history and energy. you will not do well in marriage if he likes it alot and your not interested fights will come he may begin to cheat and you break up. and if he does stay thats not fair for him to be subject to a life of a sexless marriage. do the right thing and find someone with a lower sex drive to match yours.

Now if your married and you don't want sex and your willing to let him cheat and it doesn't bother you then yes the guys gotta eat and get it from somewhere just tell him to be decreat so your friends are all coming to tell you and that he doesn't bring her up in front of you. if you can live that way do that. Many couples have there own deals set up that suit them .

Answer 8

Well, it is better then him jacking off in front of you and irritating you even more. But then he isn't faithful and if you can handle him cheating all the time, then I guess it is your personal being. Become swingers, that way it is a style of life, not cheating! Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm like that. I REALLY like sex and want it often.

I think if you want to keep him and won't give any or nearly enough, he has a right to find it somewhere else. I think for safety , it makes sense to have a regular partnership with someone and create trust and love in that relationship too.

Answer 10

I think it's best that you and he call it quits for a while. Because he's going to keep asking can you, or he's going to get it from someone else. If you don't want him cheating on you; you probably should break it off. Or keep having sex with him so you won't hurt his feelings.