I am trying to figure out why my bf(i am engaged too) is against me trying to do some commercial modeling for some extra cash for college.He got very angry when i brought it up and blew up. He wont talk to me about it only saying he liked me better in highschool than now.I think i have a decent shot because i am 18 years old 5 ft 6 106 pounds, high cheek bones, olive skin, big dark brown eyes/long eye lashes,dark brown curly hair,Spanish, fine lips and a clear face for most part.But i want my bf's support and i dont kno how to get it.?
2006-11-24 13:40:40 · 18 answers · asked by Penny D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in college and he is not because he dropped out and has no job at the moment so he has been really cranky latley.
2006-11-24 13:47:53 · update #1
If he's controlling now, just wait till youre married!
2006-11-24 13:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by texascomet 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you have got to take a step back and look at this. He asked you to marry him and dropped out of school and has no job. Any man worth his salt would be working night and day to show you that he is responsible and can provide for you and a family. This man is all about controlling you and if you give in now it will never end. If you want to try modeling, try it. If he continues to object you remind him that this is your life and you are going to lead it the way that you want to. You are not going to get his support on this he doesn't want you out there doing better than him, exposed to people that could tell you to dumb him and find someone that deserves you.
DON'T GET MARRIED.
2006-11-24 21:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is jealous of you and is resentful of the person you are trying to become. If he supports you then he may lose you to some kind of modeling career and he is not going to let that happen, I say this because he sounds very insecure with the whole situation. That is another reason why he stated he liked you more in HS, he had all your attention on him and not what you wanted. So you probably are not going to get his attention and his support so do what you want to do and do the best you can and then dump his loser butt when you are doing good.
2006-11-24 21:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do it, do not get married to that man. you are way too young to be controlled and told what you can and cant do. run away and you are not really tall enough for modeling. Most runway models are at the very least five eight and agencies wont usually take anyone under five ten. your bf is afraid you will meet somone better than him and you will dump him because he is a quiter and a loser. hmmm
2006-11-25 00:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that he is feeling very insecure and he is afraid that you will end up going a long with your modelling career and he will be left behind. If you really love him you have to reassure him of your love and make it clear to him that regardless of what happens, he will always be a big part of your life. Tell him that this is for both of you to get ahead in life, not just for yourself. If he loves you, you will be able to make him understand. Just keep working on him, he should come around eventually and if he doesn't well then you have to decide what is really important to you. HIM OR MODELLING !!! Good luck
2006-11-24 22:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if this is really what you want than go for it, if he really cares for you than he will support you. if not than hes not the right one, and this will get wrose, you dont want a man getting in your way and stopping your dreams, hes probably jealous and thinks that you wont pay as much attention to him if you get into modeling and he doesnt like guys looking at you, but he needs to choose between having you as his girlfriend or being jealous and end up losing you. Give him the chose, i am sure he will see what hes missing once you give him his options.
2006-11-24 21:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a lot of girls in modelling and acting are sort of expected to sleep around to get jobs. Maybe that's what is bothering him. It's hard to say without more details. Like does he tend to be a jealous or possessive guy?
2006-11-24 21:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO i wouldnt b mad b/c ur just tryin 2 get the extra cash 4 college so he shouldnt b mad @ u bout that.
i think u should buy him some thing special 4 him 2 cheer him up so he wont b mad @ u 4 gettin the extra cash
2006-11-24 21:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥SUMMERTIME♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not want to share u w/ the world! Just tell him that u need his support and if he loves u he will understand.
2006-11-24 21:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's afraid that you'll become famous and leave him for someone else, or that your ego will get so big that you push him away, or you might make more money than him eventually and he might have that foolish male pride, etc.
Just try talking to him about it.
2006-11-24 21:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're too young to get married. you said that he liked you better in high school then now? wasn't that just last year? i think that maybe he's worried that you'll be great in modeling and forget his insecure a**. let him go, and do what you want. just be careful, and you'll be fine.
2006-11-24 21:46:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋