Forget everything and Remember?

Question

I have come home to attend a family members funeral. Give me some tips on how to forget my grief but still remember them?!

Thanks to all. x

Answer 1

Your grief will always be there, some people keep it deep inside while others want to talk about how they are feeling, you know it's not good to supress your feelings because you will let them build up then beware of that day when you have a melt down because sometimes the grief is too much to handle, then you have to talk it out with someone. If you want to bypass your grief for the time being you should try to think about all your good times you had with this person and any funny memories that you can think of will help you cope for now, and be thankfull that you were in this persons life and you got to share what time you had here on earth together. It's ok to cry, sometimes your sad tears will turn into happy tears when you remember the good times. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Hello Babyshambles,

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Firstly, you have to remember that bereavement is a very hard experience to go through and different people handle it in different ways. You need to go through the grieving process in a way which is best for you. There is no right or wrong way to handle this horrible time that you're going through.

Talk to someone about how you are feeling - it is common to want to share your feelings over and over again.

I'm not sure if the funeral you're going to is in a church, but don't underestimate the power of ritual, both religious and secular, it can help you to channel strong emotions and give a sense of some order and control, when the ground feels shaky under your feet.

Try writing down thoughts and feelings can be very helpful. It can serve as a coping mechanism, a way of exercising control as well as a way of expressing emotions.

Begin to restore order into your world by re-establishing familiar routines.

Above all, Babyshambles, remember healing takes time and time itself is a healer.

Finally, if you need to, you can also seek professional help.

All the best for the day. Be strong, and my thoughts are with you.

Rax

Answer 3

Grieving takes a while, a long while sometimes. It will get better as time goes along. At funerals, primarily Anglican are the ones I have attended, I always attempt to think about something else, suspending emotions in public.
My mum's trick...focus on a corner or something else, and tune out the words. Worked for her, works for me!!
--CJ "The cheeky lad"

Answer 4

Sorry for your loss.
Remember the good times you shared with that person, it'll help you in dealing with the grief.

Answer 5

Give yourself over to grief...cry. That's what funerals are for to remember and say good-bye.

Answer 6

Remember the good times. Talk about the person, remember stories, photos or video. Celebrate the life not the death.

Answer 7

just remember all the good times you spent with this person...reflect....i know your sad now, but remembering all the nice things about this person will help you through the bad moments you may have dealing with the grief...sorry for your loss...bless you........x

Answer 8

This is what a friend told me when I lost my father.
What makes you cry today, will make you laugh later.
You'll cry about losing the person and the things that made them special but later you will find yourself grinning when you recall the same things. It is all time, be well.

Answer 9

mourn their death becoz if you don't it will make you depressed every time you think about them.try to remember all the good, bad and funny things about their life and talk about it to your friends.above all thank God for their life.

Answer 10

the doctor recomends 2 shots of tequila