Gal been wit guy 5 yrs had 3kids and found out during last 2 of those last yrs he had secret affair. The gal was confronted and she says she didn't know he had a woman. Later on again finds out that he went and cheated with same gal again, but which this time the gal had a baby from him. You find this out and she claims she thought you were not together even though you had confronted her previoulsy and still she slept with him again. He begs you everyday to forgive him he wants to work things out. He says he loves and it was a mistake, says he never wanted that baby she had. He says she tricked him. He says he wants to come home and be a family. He claims he not even sure if it is his child because she has a bad reputation and she has slept with others he knows. He says she just jealous because he doesn't want to be with her and that she has been telling lies to upset you so you don't forgive him or take him back. What to do if it was you?
2006-11-24 13:37:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't believe him, men will tell you "anything" just for you to fall again for their lies. But...at the end is your decision if you want to continue the relationship and try again.
2006-11-24 13:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had a similar thing happen, only she got sick from hers. She found out he was cheating because she got HPV which turned into cervical cancer. He apologized and they stayed together, but then while she was at the doctor's getting her uterus SCRAPED OUT, he was supposed to be with their daughter and he invited his woman over... Guys are freaking pigs...
As for you, forget about her. She's not the problem. He probably DID tell her you two weren't together. Either way, it's not like it's just her fault. Your man has NO EXCUSE for not knowing that you two are together. And if he doesn't want to be with ONLY you, don't let him be with you at all. If he gets what he wants sexually from her, he will just be relying on you for the rest- money help, laundry, etc. Don't be his slave while she's his love. Let him go. When he goes to work tomorrow, put his stuff in the driveway and change the locks... Good luck!! â¥
2006-11-24 21:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Second chances are fair and you gave that to him.Obviously he has no regards for your feelings if he went back again to this women. Even if the baby is not his he was willing to sacrafice his marriage for another chance to be with this person. Where do your feelings come in to play..Continuing to open your heart to this person will only lead to pain. Let it go and move on for yourself and your children. Your family needs stability
not a man that is going to keep you going in circles.
2006-11-24 21:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she tricked him into sleeping with her?
lol that is the one of the funniest excuses I've heard.
pfft seriously, sounds like this guy needs to grasp the concept of responsability and growing up. No, he had his chance and blew it. Now he doesn't want the baby?.... like I said, just shows alot of immaturity. Yes, it's hurtful, yes he's gonna beg, but I think you (or the gal as you say) needs somebody who appreciated her better, not some loser that's taking her as a set back.
2006-11-24 21:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by G-gnomegrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
I would say that I would look for some pretty serious evidence that this guy had changed. Holding down a job, and enrolling in marriage/family therapy sessions might be a good sign. Otherwise I think I might be moving on...
2006-11-24 21:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust the guy any more
the first time is enough
he loves you he wouldn't have done it a second time. he should be grateful he was forgiven the first time
lies when he says he was tricked
every man says a woman has a bad reputation when you tell them your having his baby and he don't want it.
2006-11-24 21:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, kcuf it. Every circumstance is different. If its your friend, then stay out of her business and just be there for her. Trust, people know when things are bad.
2006-11-24 21:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people do change. I would just pray about it and if he really means what he say you will know cause you will feel it in your heart. He would have to prove it to me first though.
2006-11-24 21:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by yonji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this experience and she cheated again and actually gave me a mild std...word to the wise...
2006-11-24 21:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you ever trust him again? I think you would be asking for heartache if you took him back.
2006-11-24 22:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋