iv alwayz been one of them ppl who keep my personal life personal.......and now my mom is tryin to "understand" more ....becuz we moved and she thinks im "depressed" (or bipoler) im not.......so shez been looking 4 places for "young gay teens" so i can get out the house....i so glad she tryin to help......but i really dont want it.....so how do i say tnx but no tnx??????
2006-11-24 12:59:33 · 8 answers · asked by c4chirs 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Perhaps your mom is trying to find a place because she wants you to know that she understands.
I hate to say this, but I did the same when my son came out this summer. I think I was the last person that knew he was gay. I am sure it's denial that I've been in; nonetheless, I felt somehow that I needed to show him that I care and understand...and accept him no matter what. How does one show that when presented with new lifestyle? I told him that I could attend groups that support gays and was advising him to hang out with other gays so no one picks fun of him. It may sound ridiculous but its just a mother making sure her child is "safe." We may accept and understand but we know others do not and we just want to protect ours.
So you could really sit down with your mother and explain to her that you pretty much know what you want to do but let her know you appreciate her attempts to help you. You can reassure her that you are not depressed, that you are also not bipolar.
Sometimes when a parent doesn't understand (or accept readily), we think something else is the cause. Just be frank with her so that she understands that you know what you want in life and that this is it...that she doesn't have to feel she needs to "orchestrate." My son is 26. He had to tell me because I didn't think I was doing that. It's hard not to "mother" so much. :)
2006-11-24 13:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why this is a bit much from your perspective, but it is nice that your mom is trying to show she loves you. What you might suggest to her is that rather than her look for stuff on your behalf...she might look into finding a group for herself such as PFLAG. It's a good place for parents to go so they can learn that their kids are fine. Really. Just fine. OK, mom. Fine. Best of luck!
2006-11-24 13:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 15:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with her, tell her you appreciate the effort but what you really need is just her love and support.
2006-11-24 14:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you appreciate her support but this is something you need to do for your self
2006-11-24 13:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to her that gay/lesbian people are normal...like other kids/adults...
and don't want their parents trying to set them up and such!
2006-11-24 13:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by earthwhisper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop looking and that u wouldnt feel comfortable their.
2006-11-24 14:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Chuckie Bronson. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying, "Thanks, but no thanks."
2006-11-24 16:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋