I think the key to ANY kindof relationship is communication. What I don't understand is why people need to "dance around the bush" when it comes to talking about their feelings?
2006-11-24 12:39:03 · 14 answers · asked by [ΦΘΚ] PIяATE 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When confronted they tend to feel vunerable......
2006-11-24 12:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never avoid confrontation. I find it quite therapeutic. No problem can be resolved without some confrontation. Confrontation doesn't necessarily equal aggression. I consider myself highly confrontational and yet personable. I like to leave the other person feeling better than before we came face to face regardless of whether or not we agree in the end.
2006-11-25 01:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct confrontation is a little like a dog fight, no body gets away without getting bitten.The art of communication is exemplified by Diplomacy
or tactful and reasonable exchange of opinions.
If you are in rough company, by all means be abrupt, direct, and rude, you are not going to hurt any body's feelings. But when you are in gentler company don't behave like a " bull in a china shop", " dance around the plates a little"
so that you don't trample on any body's feelings.
2006-11-24 20:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by willgvaa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People or women?
Confrontation or feelings?
Men can, and usually do, confront their offender head on, whereas women USUALLY gossip and go behind someone's back, full well knowing that their message will get to the offender.
Nice women, tough men. Field contact sports, and it's all a game, you do what you gotta do to get to the goal, everyone understands that.
Dolls have tea parties.
Now, there are men who won't discuss feelings because they're told not to have them. Somehow, they absorb that from their own mothers, who swear that men are strong, silent, and definitely insensitive Pr***S without feelings.
If women knew better, maybe men would.
But many women do get their feelings out, eventually.
My partner and I (he is twice as old as I am) know how to be fair and straight with each other. We are both very compassionate people, hard on ourselves. This means we keep our consideration of each other very high, make each other happy, and very often correct our own selves when we get a little offensive.
But when this does not happen so easily, each of us is free to calmly express what we have felt.
I can't wait to see what happens when the honeymoon stage is over.
I actually know that we have many skills that will tide us over.
But, I had to find a man with a lot of experience in life beofre someone knew how to relate to me.
2006-11-24 20:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because sadly our soceity breeds submissiveness at a young age. TV shows and books always depict anyone who tries to get ahead or looks out for number one as evil. Many parents still raise their kid under the puritanical belief children should be seen and not heard. The Church attempts to pound into the heads of it followers the ideals of modesty and sacrifice to an extreme that your average person does not encounter in their daily life. Schools reward students who don't question the educational process and deals sternly with those who buck it.
2006-11-24 22:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
confrontation, causes anxiety, apprehention. confusion, usually causing your thought pattern to shut down, An A typical person usually attacts aggresivly, and usually don't care who's feelings he hurts, as long as he gets the point across, (even if he wrong) but then theres the politically correct personallity, agreeing even he knows you wrong, just to keep from hurting you feelings or causing conflict, regardless confrontations always leave you feeling empty and anxious, confusing your thought pattern , increasing your anxiety level, raising blood preasure, and generally messing up you whole day, so while sometimes you need confrontation to resolve a problem, sometimes it better to tip-toe gently around the subject and keep a friend, and your sanity.
2006-11-24 21:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by JntheRev 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to feel like they are out of control in any situation and they don't want to cause the end of a relationship. I can confront people I know, but never people I don't.
2006-11-24 20:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are scared to face reality and negativity. Confrontation usually is brought on by something negative happening so most people don't want to deal with something that puts them in a bad position. Also, they may not want to hurt your feelings in the process of telling you their feelings.
2006-11-24 20:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by chocolatebabycakes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because we live in a society that has been conditioned to make people happy. And do it regardless of how you feel about the situation.
It is also contingent on what part of the country that you live in. Here in the Northwest, everyone pussy-foots around. It drives me crazy.
Good luck and don't forget to confront someone who irks you.
2006-11-24 20:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Matthew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people are raised not to be confrontational.
You obey your parents. You behave in school. You follow the law.
Being confrontational is often considered a 'bad' thing in modern society. Thus, people find it hard to put things out there and see how the chips fall.
2006-11-24 20:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confrontation cause people to take a fighting stance.
its like they are being cornered and they don't have any place to go.
there is a difference between owning you feelings like
When you do_______ I feel ________ in the future I would apprentice it if you __________.
if you confront, it can cause all forms of problems.
think about why you need to confront, then work around that.
2006-11-24 21:09:21 · answer #11 · answered by Marg N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋