Why Isn't He That Excited That I Am Pregnant?????

Question

We have been trying to concieve for months now and finally it happend. We both wanted a child so badly. He talked about it all the time. I am 5 weeks. I was unbelievably excited but he acted like it was another day. His family and I keep asking him if he is happy and hes like yeah sure and he changes the subject. I dont understand this. We both wanted it so badly and now we have a child on the way but he is not acting happy. On the other hand he isnt acting sad about it either. I just dont know what to think. I asked him if it is because he is scared and he says no. Does anyone know what is going on with him??? I dont want to go through this pregnancy alone!!!

He was soooooo excited when he found out that his sister was pregnant. He wanted to go out and buy baby clothes right away. The baby is now 3 months and he wont walk in a store with out looking at the baby section first to buy him things. When we go shopping I ask him if he wants to look at the baby stuff now and he says we dont need it for a while so why bother now.

Answer 1

probably because now that it REALLY HAPPENING...he's nervous. Men take it completely differently (trust me my hubby did)...they don't get really excited about it until you are in the hospital pushing the baby out...then it all hits them. Don't worry he'll come around I'm sure. You can just be excited enough for both of you....what can he really do right now ya know? When he starts to see your belly and feel the baby move the excitement will start to creep up on him.

congrats and good luck...you have a LONG hall

Answer 2

Albeit annoying, his reaction is extremely normal. Guys are very different when it comes to expecting a baby. I don't think the reality of it actually hits until the baby is born. They don't have the hormonal drive to procreate like we do as women. More than likely what's going through his head is that he now has to figure out how to provide for his family. It's going to cost $$. It's going to change his social life. It's going to change his family. It's going to change everything. But it's so far in the future (9 months seems like a lifetime) that he can't even really fathom what it all means. So while you're flooded with the OMG I'm actually pregnant ephoria hormones, he's more concerned with what's for dinner tonight. Pregnancy doesn't play havoc on HIS hormones. Although a little lonely and frustrating for you, try to be patient. Include him as you can with all of the pregnancy stuff. Give it time to sink in. And just know that when he holds that bundle of joy for the first time, his heart will melt and he will never be the same. I imagine there are plenty of people in your life that are able to share your excitement right now so be sure to continue to talk with them as well.
Good luck with your pregnancy! May morning sickness be only a rumor to you and may you reach your 40th week with as much excitement as you have right now.

Answer 3

Congratulations Momma

Anyway

Sounds like he is worried about things. Sit him down privately and try to speak with him. Men are really frightened when they start thinking about all the responsibility having a child will be to them.

Also, I would get a swab from him for DNA when he does not know you are doing so, just in case he tries to run off; you have it in case you need it. One way or the other he has to pay you support for the child

He may want you to cease the pregnancy and you can buy "Plan B" over the counter now; I am told it works for up to 90 days (12 weeks) into pregnancy so you are very near the line on that method of birth control if you two decide to terminate the pregnancy

You can also have the baby and give it up for adoption. Adoptive parents will sometimes pay the medical bills for the birth mother

Whatever you do: this is your body so you be satisfied with your decision

Answer 4

I think perhaps it's just a "guy thing". My husband and I had been trying nearly five years and when I got my first positive test, I was completely ecstatic...he barely even smiled about it. It took several weeks for him to come around. Whenever I'd ask him about it, his response was always along the lines of not wanting to get too excited in case something went wrong, etc...

I'm now 19 1/2 weeks pregnant and he's as excited as he can be. Whenever I get a new u/s pic, he takes it to work and introduces the pic as "his boy". It's really rather cute.

Talk to him, hon. Tell him it's bothering you that he isn't excited. He may actually have some deep seeded fears about things going wrong, etc...I'm sure he'll come around. I think they all need some weird little time period to get used to the idea...

Answer 5

Perhaps he is still in a state of disbelief because the pregnancy doesn't seem real to him yet. Maybe he's waiting until you're a little farther along before getting excited. Or maybe he's frightened now that you actually ARE pregnant... and it means a lot of changes and a lot more responsibility on his plate. It's difficult to say... but perhaps when you start showing he'll show his anticipation more. There is no way to know exactly how he is feeling or why he is acting the way that he is without getting HIM to open up and share.

Congrats.

Answer 6

My hubby was not too excited at first either. Just give it some time. Just think of what might be going through his head right now. The responsiblities, the income factor, and perhaps he is worried if he will make a good father. Us as women tend to be a bit more excited, it is a maternal thing I think. Just hang in there he will get better. If you are truely worried, sit down and talk with him. What would it hurt? Good Luck... and CONGRATS!!!

Answer 7

Maybe the news just took him by surprise. But it could be that you are being too sensitive about his reaction too and thinking the worst. That happens when you're pregnant. Everything gets you emotional and you immediately start imagining things. I say you give him some time to have the news sink in, and then see how he acts. But don't compare situations. Time will tell you whether he is really happy or not

Answer 8

He IS scared....don't believe him when he says he isn't. He is just realising that now he has to grow up and stop being selfish- there is another person to consider now. And he also knows that things are going to change forever. Give him time, sweetie. He has to come to terms with it.
And it could also be because he doesn't see anything different yet, so it isn't real for him- he will start to come around when he sees your little baby on the ultrasound screen, or feels the kicks later in your pregnancy. You won't be alone honey. You will have him there, it's just going to take a while for him to come to terms with it.
Don't give up on him!

Answer 9

sometimes it takes a little time to sink in just hang in there he will warm up to it in time it may not seem real yet. I know when I first found out I was pregnant it was scary and I was unsure until I seen the first ultrasound give it a few more weeks I am sure you won't be alone. I wish you the healthiest pregnancy and the best for you and your family take care and don't pressure him it may just cause more stress for yourself you are only at the beginning.

Answer 10

I think he is a little scared, this is the end of you and him and now he has to raise a child, that's alot to deal with.When it was his sister he didn't have to worry about the baby being sick or something happening to you. Go out and do the things you used to do before you got pregnant, you know like dinner and a movie stuff like that, then say to him you know this doesn't have to change when our little one is born, we will still have time for each other. I hope this helps you. And CONGRATES!