For the past year, every time I've been sick (about 5 times), he always avoids me because he, "...can't afford to be sick right now." My question is, when you really love someone, shouldn't you take care of them when they're sick?
HOWEVER, I see how I could be being a bit selfish, but I would take care of someone who I'm madly in love with at any cost but would take precautions so that I don't get sick as well.
I can see what he's saying because he starts another job in about a week and this time he honestly can't afford to get sick, but there have been plenty of other times where he said it when nothing significant was going on in his life.
Agree / Disagree? Do you agree / disagree under certain circumstances?
(And yes, I feel the same- that he can't afford to get sick right now, I'm just speaking about previous times).
2006-11-24 11:09:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My opinion, I would look at how giving or selfish he is in other situations with you as well. You don't say, but if it's just this one area where he doesn't show the support you think he should, who knows maybe he just has some kind of sickness phobia or other weird deal about it. On the other hand, if he is consistently unavailable when the going gets tough and you need something from him other than fun, then that's a different message.
2006-11-24 11:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does sound a little selfish to me to avoid your loved one when they are sick except in extreme situations (you have a weakened immune system, you are very susceptible to what they have etc). I think it's important to be honest with yourself about whether this carries over into other areas of your relationship as well. If it's a totally isolated thing and he's very supportive in most other ways, then maybe he has a real fear of sickness. However, if this kind of behavior occurs every time you need him, I think you should reconsider the relationship. Feel better soon, and best of luck on everything!
2006-11-24 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want some else to get sick.. sounds stupid to me.. Besides ,if you are Married,you probably need his health insurance don't you.
Quote/"For the past year, every time I've been sick (about 5 times"), /quote//
Now if you get him sick so often he can't work where does that leave you when there is no more health insurance when you obviously need it ? And with the financial circumstances you created with your own thinking!
You don't sound as selfish as you do insecure in this relationship.
2006-11-24 11:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by oderlesseye 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he gets sick next time, make sure you turn the tables and do the exact same thing with him and see how he likes it... yes I think if you love someone you should care about when they are sick and try to make them feel better and not care about "themselves' so much.. he is being a little selfish dont ya think?
2006-11-24 11:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are not being selfish because I am the same way i feel like this if i am in the hospital whether or not you want to see me in my condition is besides the point I just need support if I am sick whether you want to be sick right now or not is besides the point I am not in a relationship right now because the person that I thought he was he turned out not to be because he didn't want to be with me in my condition so you better do research and if you are sick and he doesn't want to see you then who is he spending time with
2006-11-24 11:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by not a user 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK GIRL GIVE HIM THE TEST SNEEZE AND TELL HIM TO BRING YOU SOME TISSUE IF HE DON'T THEN GET OUT THE HOUSE FOR A WHILE DON'T SAY NOTHING TO HIM BUT IF HE DO TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM OOH sorry for captions
2006-11-24 12:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by cuttygurl2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋