My friend has a bad odour problem how do i tell her in a nice way not to hurt her?

Question

all my mates are slagging her behind her back saying she cant afford the hot water to wash.i dont think its fair on her what should i do?

Answer 1

while all the others are slagging her off about her hygiene you could suggest nicely that she is not taking care of herself, but be gentle when you tell her....i had a friend who was like your friend and i bought some deodorant wipes and suggested that she tried them out....i did not mention her hygiene problem, she uses them all the time now...as for your friends...who needs enemies eh....?

Answer 2

It is difficult to address this issue with a friend without her getting upset as she obviously doesnt realise that she has a problem. Cant you casually say that you can smell something funny, and that you wonder what it is, she may take the hint, without anything further having to be said. We had this problem in our office a short while ago and it ended up with the girl going home in floods of tears and having a couple of days off with embarrassment after being told. So however you handle it good luck, you sound a very nice person not slagging her off with your mates.

Answer 3

have a look through your wardrobe and make up etc and the stuff that you don't need give to her tell her that you were sorting stuff out and would she like it but make sure there is some deodorant in it or some nice body spray, if that still doesn't work just pull her to one side and say you aren't being worried but people are calling her and is there anything you can do to help maybe you can give her a make over or some advice on health care, if she says she does wash etc maybe there is something wrong with her glands, and in that case she should go and see her doctor...but either way say it as nicely as you can and even though you feel awkward don't let it show she will probably be mortified that folk are talking about it

Answer 4

i agree with MTY. x-mas is on it's way. you should get her a big basket full of perfumes and body lotions. she will just think you're being nice and won't even stop and think that it may be because she has an odor problem. DON'T tell her that she has an odor problem because she will get upset. your friends are probably right and that's why they shouldn't make fun of her. she may not be able to afford anything. and you're right..it's NOT fair. not everyone has the money to buy perfumes and soap to smell good. your friends have no idea what condition she's in.

Answer 5

Say "Jane", are you doing something different or eating a different diet? Something seems to be having an effect on you that gives you a different odor.

Give her the chance to blame it on something else rather than just not washing well enough. If you are a friend, you owe it to her to let her know of the problem; you also owe it to her to give her an out--a way to save some pride.

I hope you follow through and let her know, but whatever you do, do not even mention her hormones, that would be even more embarrassing.

Answer 6

Tell her that you would like to tell her about something that she might not like but because she is your friend and because you care about her you think its important that you tell her about this. Ask her if she if facing any problems in this matter and if she needs any help (sometimes medical conditions make a person have bad odour).... I am sure she will be glad that you were open and honest about it..

Answer 7

if your real you would tell her just say you know im your friend and i'm gone keep it real wit you honey pepole are saying bad things about you as far as you having a odour problem and i don't think that it's right that thier talking behind your back and you may not care what people think but i just had to tell you cuz i'm the one that's gone keep it real thats why im your friend

Answer 8

In all honesty the only way you can help her is to just tell her the truth ,however I would first start by telling her that you care enough about her & that's why you are telling her this.
Remember you are helping her and she needs to know how important good hygeine is and she needs to make it her priority!

Answer 9

There used to be an advert for a deodorant I think in which it suggested that you would be someones best friend if you told them about that. So you can ask her if you can be her best friend and if she says yes then give her some advice on hygiene

Answer 10

you either buy him or her a good perfume as a gift or tell someone whom your friend doesnt know to call with a private number and tell him or her to do something about the bad odour.