religion and marriage?

Question

So we were born and raised w/ the same religion. I was raised in a secular environment and he in a practicing slightly strict environment. We do plan on having children in the future but i worry because the older i get the less religious i've become...the older he gets the more religious he has become. I'm afraid of what may happen in the future...although everything is great in all other aspects of the relationship. Because i've grown distant from my religion and all organized religions for that matter...is it logical to allow him raise his child w/ his beliefs?

Answer 1

A married woman takes her husband's name so do any children of that couple, there is nothing wrong with the children being bought up in a religious manner he was and you love him, don't let religion come between you, everything else is good so don't make this a problem, the kids will grow up and maybe be like you.

Answer 2

You guys should have ideally asked this question long back - whether will it work ! Now, you say its too late to move out. Well, what you need to be aware is, every marriage comes with it's own challenges to tackle with. When the couple belong to different faith and cultural background, the challenges multiplies. It becomes all the more tough, when you don't have supporting family / relatives - so, the question is back to you: are both of you really prepared to face the challenges and consequences awaits you, if you proceed with this? An easier option would be, one of you accept the other's faith. But, I don't encourage it unless the one who decided to convert really understand the other faith and make a conscious decision - DO NOT change your religion or faith for anyone, unless you believe in that. Faith is something very important for any human and take care of it accordingly. Also, for your info, if the guy is Catholic, the Church allows a Catholic guy to get married to a Hindu girl, even when you being Hindu, provided you promise to brought up the kids born to you in Catholic Faith. Do take your own time, note down the challenges and see how much you could manage. Take a wise decision based on the same. All the best !

Answer 3

Teach the children about religions in general at first. If they take an interest in a particular religion, then keep offering resources to answer their questions. I think it's unfair to force children to be one religion just because that's the way the parents were raised. Let them approach all religions with an open mind, and when they learn what purpose a religion serves, they can choose one that is right for them or they can choose to not have a religion.

To force a child to do otherwise will just make them hate the religion that was forced upon them. Or worse, they may become fanatics and take the religion thing much too far...for they feel they're not "good enough" for you.

Answer 4

I believe in God, the Bible and the Ten Commandments. But I don't believe in organized religion, for various reasons. I did allow my parents to raise my daughter in the Catholic Church (she was baptized there), though she also goes to church with her friends at a Southern Baptist Church. She knows why I do not go to church. She is completely aware of my beliefs. But since she was old enough, I have allowed her to make her own choice on religion. She still attends both churches as often as she can. She works 2 jobs and goes to high school, so it isn't as often. I don't believe religion should be shoved down any ones throat. You need to talk to your husband and make sure he won't do that. The two of you need to figure out a happy medium. let religion stay in the church, not at the house maybe. Except where wrong versus right in everyday living comes in.

Answer 5

I was raised in a home where we didn't attend church, but my parents would have driven me to any one I wanted if I'd asked. They let me visit my friends' churches frequently. Some enjoyed going, but many of my friends didn't want to go most of the time and I always thought it would've been better had their parents brought them when they wanted to go and let them stay home (with proper supervision) when they didn't. I think that's a better way of allowing them to choose so they never feel obligated or as if they're only doing what you want. It can help children build a stronger foundation for their beliefs.

Answer 6

thank GOD you havent got kids yet. you either take it or leave it, religion is a pwerful force. it is much more stronger than racism. if he is getting more religiuos than you , please for the sake of your future kids think twice. love is not blind so you better open your eyes and see the signs that the future is not bright .any man who is religious will always want his kids raised in that religion. there is no way your marriage will work if you decide you can never raise your kids with him in his religion. definitely you cant avoid it. he might not care in the begining but certainly he will one day decide you do it. "think before you say i do"

Answer 7

A little religion can't hurt anyone. Don't worry about "what if's".
You can have no religion in your home at all, and raise the best human beings ever.

Answer 8

I have always allowed my children to make up their own minds as to religion. I made sure they were aware of all the options and the information about each one was available to them. I never felt that it was right to impose my beliefs on them.

Answer 9

The two of you need to talk and agree completely of the situation.
let the child decide on which religion is best for him/her self..

Answer 10

I have four kids and I home school. I love Jesus and I think in the world we live in today you need to give your kids something good to believe in order to make good choices in life. IF YOU DON'T STAND FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING.