I met him on the internet. I liked him a lot. We met but even before we met, I knew I would fall for him. Now I don't feel any guilt although he has a wife and two children. I like him and that's all that matters.
However, I am worried what will happen next. I didn't think I could like someone so much after my last relationship. I am not giving him up but I will never be with him.
And yet I want to see him. I need to see him.
Any advice?
Baby
2006-11-24 10:11:21 · 14 answers · asked by Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you all who gave me advice telling me what you think I should do.
The man loves his wife and children and although I said I feel no guilt, I have no intentions of wrecking his family.
However, I intend to live that romance to the fullest.
2006-11-27 08:25:07 · update #1
You deserve your own partner, not sharing this man with another woman.
If he had the same feelings for you that you do for him, he would leave his wife for you.
But, even if he did leave his current wife to be for you, eventually you would not trust him since he was involved with another woman (you) while he was committed to another woman.
Although he's technically not cheating, since you did not mention that aspect, I think he's basically dishonest in his actions since he's married, yet seriously entertaining the idea of being with another woman.
Find the strength inside you to find your own man, he's out there, but you'll not likely find that someone special while in this "relationship" with a married man.
Good luck.
2006-11-24 10:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u really want to be the "other" woman the rest of your life?? Not only that, think about what kind of man he is that he isn't even devoted to his wife and kids? Even if he left his wife (which they don't usually), it would mean u could never trust him because u know he doesn't have any sense of comittment. Have more self-worth and self-pride, move on and find someone who is available to give u everything instead of a man who is just meeting his own needs with u. Once his little fling is done with u, u will end up feeling guilty and lonely, u should get out of this asap.
2006-11-25 14:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tired boring story. A chickenshit man who wants a little on the side makes a selfish little not-so-attractive twit feel that she has some magnetic feminine power and is the center of a big important drama. All so he can have the quick thrill of some strange, then toss her aside. Just with any other type of scam, the ones easiest to rip off are the ones who deserve it. Another reality check, you're involving yourself in threatening his wife's marriage, children, house, security, life. She "may not be able to help" shooting you. Won't that be exciting too, girly.
2006-11-24 18:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you should pursue this relationship is if he voluntarily decides to leave his wife on his own, and not because of you. Otherwise, the relationship that he starts with you will be doomed. If you're having trouble getting over him, just keep reminding yourself of how you'll feel if you end up being a homewrecker. Do you really want to take someone else's husband and father away???
2006-11-24 18:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by tashatactics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Are you insane? What makes you think he won't cheat on you like he did his wife? Hmm???? You're the other woman. Doesn't that make you feel like a homewrecker? I hate to say it, but love or not, you need to get away from him. He's not a good guy. He's cheating on his wife! He has children! Do you really want a loser like that!!!!!!!!!!!! Get a grip lady.
2006-11-24 18:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around, comes around.
It sounds like you will continue this relationship, so all I can tell you is that 10 years from now, after you've broken up his marriage, when you're crying on the phone with your best friend because your husband is dating some superhot chick he met online or at work--while claiming to love you--all we can say is "we tried to tell you".
2006-11-24 18:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away. Get out of this situation pronto.
If he will cheat on his current wife, what's to stop him from cheating on you?
Not to mention that you will feel guilty for enabling him to cause such heartbreak for his wife and children.
This is a very bad, bad thing. Don't let your libido get you confused about love. Get a man who respects women and don't look back to this guy.
2006-11-24 18:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have fallen for him.The only place you have fallen is into the shadows of his marriage.hiding in the dark like the coward that you are.You have to have a conscience before you can feel guilty ,something you seem to lack.You sound immature,self-centered ,and self absorbed.I feel sorry for his wife and his children.May the two of you reap tenfold.What the two of you sow?????
2006-11-24 19:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This married man will never leave his wife and kids for you. Deal with some heartache now, and move on. It will be much worse later.
2006-11-24 18:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by *me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your signature at the end of the question says it all.
Don't do this. There is no possible way that it will work out or that you will be happy. Stop obsessing about this guy and get yourself together.
A
2006-11-24 18:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Alan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋