I have become increasingly bitter toward women since my break up with my gf in September. Should I become trade? You know, a straight guy who lets gay guys pleasure him but doesn't do anything back instead of continuing to have disappointing female relationships? I am seriously considering this and want honest mature opinions.
2006-11-24 09:54:54 · 20 answers · asked by Trip S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you are coming from a bad place right now....I suggest you sit back, get rid of the negative energy you have filled your life with and .... clean up your head. You are blaming all women for one woman's actions...not very fair. You are bitter towards all women because of some past experiences with a few women...perhaps it is what you are doing that gets you what you get. My advice to you would be to STOP making bad choices in women and use some sense, start picking women that are compatable with your life and your head. Stop picking women based solely on what they look like, and start picking women who are kind, nice, ...and yes, these qualities do come in the same package as looks. I cannot imagine your finding any kind of happiness acting as "trade" to gay men.....it may get you off, but where does that lead to anything that is lasting as far as happiness goes? Trust me, all those women you are trying to punish will not give a rat's butt about what you are doing...you hurt no one but yourself when you seal yourself off as you are suggesting. AND, you will not be doing any gay guy a favor either. Your life is your own, your mistakes are your own...stop blaming all women for your mistakes and that is the first road back to sanity. Good luck
2006-11-24 10:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Can you really be satisfied by being pleasured without giving anything back. Part of the whole point behind any sexual act is the reassurance that your partner is also enjoying themselves and likes your company.
I think you should really consider why it is that you have become so bitter towards Women, and that if you are not ready to let go of those feelings that maybe it has something to do with not truly being over your ex. Until you can let go of the hate you have for women and your ex you may find it difficult to really enjoy sexual activity's. You should spend some time healing from past experiences and moving on. There are plenty of wonderful men and women in the world, and you need to help yourself remember that.
Best of luck to you. I hope you find a solution that works for you.
2006-11-24 10:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a strong libido. I believe that sexuality isn't harmful unless it is performed for the wrong reasons. I don't think your reason is a good one to engage in a homosexual encounter.
First of all to be bitter toward all women because of one relationship gone bad is terribly sexist. You are insinuating that all women are the same. They are not. There are wonderful and understanding women out there.
Secondly I don't have a problem with homosexual relationships or encounters, but they should also be respected and not performed simply to get 'even'. If you can truly enjoy a gay encounter - go for it, but don't restrict yourself from considering making a relationship from it as well. Maybe it could be good for you.
Whether you experience sexual contentment with either man or woman it really doesn't matter. What does matter is that you are honest with yourself and your partner because ultimately it is about your happiness. Go for whatever makes you comfortable and don't hold back.
2006-11-24 10:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by mshalar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are not toys you arrogant piece of crap. I have read some of your other answers and it is no wonder she left you. You don't deserve to be happy until you change your attitude and start realizing the people are not objects to amuse you. So she didn't want to sign a prenup- BFD! Grow up. I know there are a lot of gay guys out there who get off on doing a "straight guy". But guess what, if you are really straight, you wouldn't enjoy it or get off on it. I think you are a closet case and need to stop trying to convince us all with you macho mysogynistic crap that you are just a victim. Get over yourself queer boy.
2006-11-24 13:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by J S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that you'd get pleasure out of that kind of relationship? You'll probably end up getting some guy falling for you and then what?
Seriously, you're upset since breaking up with the g/f....but do you realize it doesn't matter which gender you do it with.....you are always dealing with another "PERSON". Men as well as women have their failings.
Before running out and getting a B/J from some guy.....think about what you want.
Good luck......give it time.....you'll be okay.
2006-11-24 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they say, "Absence makes the guts improve fonder". So bypass undemanding on him, do not tension him in any respect. yet take care of him the way that a woman could choose a guy to handle her because of the fact he's hurting and desires a pal now, not a lover. Take him out to dinner a minimum of two times a Mo., bypass on walks with him, purchase a rose. enable him improve on you, not any wrong way around. In time he will forget her and see which you are the only that introduced him in from the chilly, that it substitute into you that fluctuate into there while he substitute into lost and needed a pal. And enable him understand that the e book he study the day formerly today could be in somebody else's hand, you and him could make it artwork like previous circumstances while the international substitute into youthful and you too have been like 2 peas in a pod. additionally they say, "in case you could't be with the only you enjoyed and have lost, love the only your with"
2016-10-13 01:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been like a month since your breakup with your ex-girlfriend.Give yourself some time to heal,go party or just goofing off with some of your friends.It's to early to make any impetuous decisions.All women aren't the same, so judge them all based on a bad experience that you had with one.
2006-11-24 10:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is a bad thing. You shouldn't give up just because of one woman. However, I think that maybe you should consider dating a guy (no sex!) and try to find out if you might actually be gay yourself. Don't take it to be a bad thing to be gay, and just be yourself. But also, try to see things from a woman's perspective. Women like to be more romantic and try to discuss feelings with guys, so if your girlfriend bores you to death by talking about how she feels when you do something, don't get mad at her, just tell her calmly that you don't like to talk about this, but you'll try to understand how she feels.
2006-11-24 10:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to expose yourself to some serious STD's. Any sores you may develop down there could be infected by interplay with your new friends. How about working harder on relationships instead of walking on the wild side?
2006-11-24 10:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by sapphire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fear would be that you'd end up breaking some nice guy's heart. Nothing is worth that. Figure out what you really want. If it's women, then women. If it's guys, then guys. If both, fine. But be careful with your heart and the hearts of others.
2006-11-24 10:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋