I went to school with this guy who is now a very successful actor. I wont say his name but he is on a hit tv show...Anyhow Im not envious of the fame as i never wanted that, but strangely he has exactly what i wanted and lives where i always dreamed of living ..Its kinda sickening. . Its wierd how he got the things i specifically wanted, I dont mean a nice car and big house, I mean he got the details of what i dreamed of. I feel like i took a big wrong turn in life and im getting my nose rubbed in it now. Any ideas how to get rid of this feeling.
2006-11-24 09:41:05 · 11 answers · asked by james l 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It doesn't matter how successful you are. Envy only occurs if you are not totally absorbed in your own life, with enough concentration and focus.
You are probably distracted, not seriously pursuing anything, with time to think about other people.
Find something to concentrate in.
2006-11-24 13:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Sabetudo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at all of the positive things in your life. The things you have accomplished and the lives you have touched. There is probably at least one thing or person for which or whom you would have sacrificed all of those dreams even if they had come to you. Look to the future also. Decide what it is you really want now. Then make a plan of how you will achieve your goals and begin working on it. But while you are working towards your goals, do not make them the all important thing. Enjoy the ride. It may take you someplace other than where you initially intended to go but find joy in that place also.
2006-11-24 17:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get what you want. If you do not get it you did not want it bad enough. I have done TV and movie work, low level stuff. The hours are too long for me. I stopped doing it. Maybe I would have gotten that big break maybe not. But I did not want it bad enough. I have met famous actors and they did not impress me. I was rubbing elbows with these people and the only difference between them and me was they wear makeup. There is nothing to be jealous of.
2006-11-24 18:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't take a wrong turn. His success has nothing to do with your life. Take your mind off him... Come up with a list of what you want out of life and once you have the list just go for it. Don't try and copy someone else just because you think that it's cool to have what they have, etc... Do what makes you happy in life. And learn from all the "wrong turns" you make in life. Learn from all the experiences you have. Also realize all that you do have in life not all that you don't have.
2006-11-24 17:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXAMINE YOUR LIFE, write down percieved things that you think that he has that should be yours, now write the things he does not have that you have. your second list will be ten times longer.
if you was to meet in a pub and share a drink with the person who you are envious of and as a exersise you both wrote your problems on a paper i bet you would not want his problems, you would ask him to return your paper. envy is a negative and destructive force, if you let it get a toehold it will grow, stamp out the negativity by a good dose of reality, its time to count your blessings, remember your cup is always half full, never half empty.LF.
2006-11-24 20:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by lefang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the negative things that he has in his life.
Then make a list of what you like about your life that he couldn't get because he chose to become an actor..compare these lists. I am almost certain that you will feel better afterwards.
2006-11-24 18:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Existentialism 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about framing the situation differently?
Like saying: Ok, he got there faster than me. I'll get there soon enough.
Are these things you want(ed) impossible for you to achieve, even after your 'big wrong turn' ? If the answers is no, then what is stopping you?
2006-11-24 17:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact him and ask him for tips on how he got where he is. Chances are, he went to acting school and LOTS of auditions! Instead of resenting your friend, appreciate that he figured out how to get where he is. You could learn a lot from him if you give yourself the chance!
2006-11-24 17:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you feel sad about this. You should remember that your worth as a person does not depend on what possessions you have, regardless of the messages that you hear from the world all around you.
2006-11-24 17:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly does he have that you wanted? This could be a good opportunity to reassess your direction in life and get whatever it is you really want
2006-11-24 19:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by creamy69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋