I know it's over. I have no idea where he stands, as we don't communicate anymore. We're roomates, raising 2 kids, and I want out.
2006-11-24 09:38:57 · 17 answers · asked by squirt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no easy way. You just have to be straight and to the point. There are no magic words that will make it easier on either of you. Just make sure the kid are with grandparents or a trusted friend for the night so that they do not have to hear anything that is said.
2006-11-24 09:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counselling yet? With two kids, I would say that is the first step. Don't go straight into divorce yet. At least giving counseling a try will show your kids that you are making an effort to patch things up. So ask your husband how he feels about the marriage first, and see how he responds. Try to stay level headed and keep the conversation cool. Try not to get into an accusatory shouting match. If this happens, give both of you some time to cool off and then suggest counseling. If the counseling doesn't work, then you can easily go into the divorce conversation.
If you suggest divorce before couseling, it might be like a punch in the face for him. You don't want to end your relationship hating each other. For the kids, you want things to remain friendly, or at least tolerable.
Remember, you were in love with him once...and he with you. It isn't too late to get the spark back. But it won't happen if you don't try.
2006-11-24 09:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U might want to just sit him down and explain how u don't think things r working out. U really don't believe things can change and however else u feel then tell him u need a divorce. Though I think that is the most resonable way, u may still want to try it when the kids aren't home just in case he takes it the wrong way.
2006-11-24 09:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by smileymileycooper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your clothes and whatever you are going to take with you. Either call him at work or just leave a note home. He'll be calling around trying to find where you moved or follow you home after work. If he is prone to fight you call the law and they'll fol ow you home and put him under a restraining order. Think about that might be just what he wants and didn't have the nerve to do,himself. He make just jump with joy that is something you can never know what someone has on their mind. Just check him out.first to see he is going to act.
2006-11-24 09:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take the easy way out. Tell him face to face how you feel and that you think he feels the same way. Discuss what you will both do after the divorce, how things will be divided, how you will both tell the kids together.
2006-11-24 10:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sat my husband down and asked him if he was happy in our marriage has we didn't communicate either and led total different lifes he wanted to be out all the time and i happy to stay in anyway we just talked i told him how i felt and how unhappy i was and that we shouldn't waste our one chance of life being unhappy and we would probably get on much better has Friends we havent any children even so we were married for 7yrs and did try on numerous occasion to work at it but people sometimes just grow apart to the extent of no return we had actually moved to Spain together probably one last attempt to save it fresh start and all that but it doesn't matter where you are or whom your with once its gone its gone so put yourselves out of your misery and have that talk and move on with your life and also for the children's sake you ll all be a lot happier with out the tension and stress this must be causing all of you
2006-11-24 09:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me 2 1/2 years ago. it wasn't easy. it sounds like he may feel like you do if you've made it to roommate statis. you will have to be direct but nice. when you do tell him let him tell you how he feels. it's important to continue with the lines of communication through out the divorce. it'll make it easier in court and it'll make it easier with the kids when you are apart.
2006-11-24 09:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see him, just come out and say, "I want a divorce". That should start the conversation.
2006-11-24 09:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off talk to a lawyer and know your rights and then go somewhere public and tell him that you are not happy and that due to no communication you feel the marriage has broken down and that you want out. good luck
2006-11-24 09:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by kittykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. Just come right out and say it. Put it on the table. Its gonna end up hurting no matter what.
2006-11-24 09:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Stupid White Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋