I have joint custody of three small kids. The doctor called and says my ex is not doing her job.?

Question

Specifcally my daughter needs special attention in regards to excercise and diet.
My daughter told the specialist that I am the only parent that takes her to excercise and feed her the right foods.She wakes up before her mom for school and cooks the wrong food for breakfast. The doctor's office is willing to write a letter on my behalf. The court appointed psychologist is willing to do so as well. My attorney called and said this is a big step towards full custody. I know the kids need both parents and I have tried to tell her nicely to follow the doctor's orders(she is a nurse).I got divorced because she became a different person much different than whom I married. But their health is of the utmost importance and if she continues like this what choice do I have?

Answer 1

Depending upon which state you live in, try mediation first and, if that doesn't have the desired results, file for an emergency change in custody based upon the imminent danger to the child(ren).
HOWEVER, your children need their mother as much as their father. There's physical health and there is also emotional health issues.
If these physical health issues of which you write are TRULY imminently dangerous, that's fine - do what you need to do.
Attempt mediation first. If you can both agree on a plan that's best for your children, everyone wins, ESPECIALLY the children. If she later violates something she voluntarily agreed to, that would carry significant weight in most courtrooms.
Make CERTAIN this is not a contest between the two of you. Your children stand to lose big time no matter which parent wins or thinks they win.

Answer 2

Oh its so easy 2 come down on mothers, coz we put them on pedastools n should they turn out to be only human its seen as a fault. how old is ur daughter? if she can cook surly she can be taught how 2 cook healthy food, all children could be n if she can cook , she can disaplin herself 2 do her exercise routeen unsupervized . wouldnt that be apossative thing 2 also learn 2 do ? sounds 2 me like u could be a bit more suportive n less critical. Although u may be devorced, ur still a family n yes children do need both parents. Always no matter what something possative n efective should be the out come with a little respect n souport with in reasone 4 ur ex , 4 ur kids sake. maybe ur ex is going through a difficult time or just cant handle what u expect from her. talk 2 her not at her . If u cant be her hubby nows a good time 2 practice just being ur kids mums friend n set a good exampl 4 ur children regards compasion n acceptance.

Answer 3

It sounds like you have a good thing going for you. If the kids still get to see their mom on visitation, it will be good for them even if they eat trash while they are there. They will understand eventually that eating the right foods is better than eating crap. But if they only see their mom about every other week, then the food they eat there is not going to have that big of an effect on their nutrition.
Good Luck, and remember that your kid's mental health is just as important as their physical health!

Answer 4

I know in Colorado where I live you can leave you kids at home once they are 13 so if shes not breaking any laws than leave her alone If you feel like the 14 year old is not responsible enough to watch the others than I see what you mean but it seems like with all the recent mother killing child stories women are really getting a bad wrap

Answer 5

Try talking to her again, but tell her you are ready to take it farther if necessary. Dont threaten, just explain that your daughters health is at stake and you are only concerned with that. Ask her to follow the doctors orders so you arent forced to take it to the full custody hearing. Maybe that will sink in.

Answer 6

it sounds to me like you need to call your attorney and tell him the situation. If you have a Dr to back you up you should be able to get full custody of the kids. B4 you go to court in some states you can get emergency custody for reasons such as these.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Well, you need to see what is going on with her. If taking care of her own kids is too much, then you need to see if her schedule is tight. Talk things over with her first. If she refuses to change, then you need to take the initiative and take full custody. From what I can see, you haven't forced your children to say anything and you have been patient. Do what you must for your children.

Answer 8

if you can get the doctor to testify that the other person is not taking proper care of the kids you could go to court and file for full custody of the three kids.

Answer 9

You have no choice. I know they need both parents but they need good health too. And if your ex its not doing a good job then you need to step in and take care of them otherwise you will regret it if you don’t do something about it. Your kids are first, if you don’t take care of them, then who will? Obviously your ex its not. Get full custody.

Answer 10

Talk to your ex about her behvior in regards to your children. Be firm, but friendly and see if things change for the better. If not you may have to take legal action and custody giving her parenting rights.