aggression.......?

Question

why cant some people not contain it

Answer 1

I think aggression used in moderation is a good think.

Answer 2

I just attended a three day conference for work about the managment of aggression and violent behaviours. It was really boring but it gave me an insight into recognising the reason for a persons aggression. There are four main types of aggression. Fear, Frustration, Manipulation and Intimidation.
The fearful person may become aggressive because they feel threatened, scared or unsafe, the frustrated person may become aggressive because they have been antagonized or no one listens to them, the manipulator just wants whatever they can get and may turn aggressive when they dont get it and the intimidator is a bully who demands and gets aggressive when they get non- compliance.
Each type of aggressor has personal reasons as to why they cant contain the aggression. E.g. The fearful person may have very low self esteem and when confronted with something they dont want to do they may become violent to escape what frightens them.
There are different ways to deal with each type of aggression but the most dangerous is actually the fearful person, they have gone into flight mode and look out anyone who stands in their way. Once they have reached a state of flight there will be no talking them down.

Answer 3

Well, it all depends on the individual and the reasons behind why they loose it or why they dont loose it. - Some people are more agressive because they've got higher levels of testosterone (the hormone that makes us aggressive) and some people are more aggressive because they've never learnt that aggressive behaviour is not acceptable or appropriate.

We are always learning through life, and if somebody acts with agression and gets a good result, they are more likely to act with agression again.

If you are in danger of someone who is agressive towards you, you need to make sure you stay safe. No body has the right to hurt you, so if they are threatening to or acting violently towards you, you need to teach them that they cannot act that way, by stopping them - if you are being hurt, you must go to the police, please stop it from happening again.

Answer 4

Konrad Lorenz wrote 'On Aggression'.
His theory is that the capacity for aggression exists in all of us, and that it is normally a defence mechanism only used in extreme situations.
But some animals (and people - we are animals) don't learn the normal social conventions and manners; and some learn to like using aggression. They get off on it as an emotion, and they like the results they get from using it.

Answer 5

Because they haven't been taught how to effectively deal with their emotions, in a way that isn't destructive to themselves or others.

Let's face it. How many of us were given an understanding and taught effective ways to deal with our emotions? Most probably our parents weren't taught either, so they didn't have the skills to pass on to us. And so we have learnt in the best way we can according to our individual experiences in life. Most of us manage pretty well, but for some people there is such a build up (most probabably triggered from unhappy or traumatic past experiences) and because they don't know what to do about it, it just builds up until they become as a volcano that erupts.

I would add that some of us are taught that it isn't acceptable to be angry or to show emotion. So what happens is that it gets stuffed down and one can only stuff it down so many times before there are repercussions.

Emotions are our safety valves....designed to be felt, but in healthy non-destructive ways.

Answer 6

Why can't some people show emotions at all? Usually people who can show their aggression are able to show their compassion, love, gratitude, fear etc. Some people are just more sensitive than others and they have to let these emotions show. Usually those people who never show aggression are not that easy at showing their love or even their gratitude. I suppose you get something bad in return for something good.

Answer 7

For some, aggression is the only way to assert themselves. For others, it is a last resort. If you don't have aggression in your nature, then you are lucky. If you have it on tap, then you will most likely find a need for it someday.

Answer 8

It's a way of dealing with pressure for some people - some cry and feel helpless, some shout and take it out on people who have nothing to do with the problem.
But when agression is constant and when you're dangerous for others, better see the doctor

Answer 9

Agression isoften (tho not always) connected to some inner conflict. The conflict can be what someone has done in the past to the agressor or something they have done to another and feel guilt and are unresolved in some way......they cannot find resolution....so the feelings of frustration are vented at any chosen victim.

Answer 10

You would do well to stay away from people who can't control their feeling of aggression!