help?!i am 15 and very...?

Question

sexuality active and i want to lose my virginity to my best guy friend. we went out twice and we still like each other. i can't take it i want to have sex. and don't tell me i'm to young i'm ready. also how can you tell if a guy carries condoms? anyway how should i tell him or show , hint it to him?

Answer 1

Talk to your parents about this. You should be on birth control if you are going to have sex so you don't get pregnant. Condoms can fail don't count on that as your only form of birth control.

The only way to know for sure that condoms are present when you want to have sex is to carry them yourself.

Answer 2

I'm gonna appeal to your better judgement and say DON"T DO IT! I suspect that the burning in your loins is actually a burning in your heart. Based on my own history, i would guess that what you crave is closeness, edification, acceptance, etc., etc., etc. Sex is messy, invasive, often embarrasing, dissapointing, and sometimes painful. Probably not what you envision it to be. And if you masterbate to orgasm and expect sex to lead to an orgasm for you, Good luck. Most women don't come from intercourse until their mid 20's if at all.
I was in the exact same situation at your age. I went through with it, and the results were not good. I know i was ready, and don't regret the timing, just the person. Male and Female thought processes differ greatly when it comes to sex and everything involved. My friend and i were inseperable and had fooled around with no problem, but once we had sex, everything changed. Though we really had fun together, i wasn't the type of girl he wanted to date(friends are never the same type as girlfriends, otherwise guys would always date their friends). So everytime he got a new girlfriend or slept with someone else, it broke my heart. Not that i wanted to date him, but if he was going to have casual sex, why not with me? And our libidos weren't matched. I wanted to have sex much more frequently than he did, which caused tension and arguments. I'm 27 years old, and still feel pangs of regret when i think about him.
If you insist on giving it up, find a booty call buddy. Someone who you have good sexual chemistry with. Someone who you can be monogamous with, but without the baggage of a romantic relationship. Preferably someone who doesn't go to your school, to cut down on drama, cause no matter waht you do, people will find out. That's the best advice i can give. Trust me, I've made enough mistakes for both of us.
PS. why don't you carry condoms? You should! If you don't know whether or not he carries condoms, why not ask? He is your best friend, right? The guy you trust enough to lose your virginity to. Actually, if you haven't already discussed the possibility of having sex together many times, than y'all are not ready to get it on. You should be able to discuss it openly, all of it. You should have already discussed all the hypotheticals. You want to minimize the surprises as much as possible.

Answer 3

Sounds like you are determined. In that case i suggest YOU carry the condoms.
I would let it happen naturally with the aid of a bit of flirting. if that doesn't work then dont bother. The best way to ruin a friendship with a guy is to sleep with him. So say hello to a lover and goodbye to a friend. If it doeant work out in the sex department then you have lost both just because you cant wait to lose your virginity. It only happens once so if I were you I would think harder about what your doing in terms of long term consequences.

Answer 4

get your own condoms! And if you want to have sex with your friend just ask if he wants to. You might also consider using another more safe kind of birth control. Go talk to your doctor, she will understand totally, and would rather give you the pill now, than deliver your baby in a year.

Answer 5

You have waited 15 years, so wait another month. I'm not telling you to wait forever, so don't panic, I'm just telling you to wait till you are prepared.

Go to the gyno and get on the pill, before any intercourse to practically insure that you don't get preggers. Then buy your own condoms, never rely on the guy to have them, that way you can practically insure that you don't get any STD's.

I know you are very curious, but sate that appetite for a little longer and take the necessary steps to assure safety.

Answer 6

Well about the condom thing, ask him. if he doesn't have any he'll tell you. as for the losing your virginity thing...you can go ahead and just make the move but he's never going to see you in the same light afterwards. So just be ready to lose him over this. Becaus he might just lose alot of respect for you.

Answer 7

if you can not tell him outright that he needds to wear a condom and be forceful about it (another words dont take no for an answer, when he says he does not want to wear one) then you ahve no business having sex. I would kill my daughter if she was having sex at 15 b/c that is way to young to be doing such and adult thing!!

Answer 8

just say it straight out to him. The best approach with a guy is to be straight forward and direct with him. Guys do not like beating around the bush so to say so .. be honest.. lt him know.

Answer 9

The whole thing about abstinence is to abstain when you feel the desire, there lies the challenge. Do not fail yourself. After this is done you will have nothing left to call your own. Keep calm.
God bless us all...

Answer 10

I would make sure you have some instead of making it his job. If he doesn't then what? come prepared....and don't hint. he will love it if you take charge. If you are ready....then don't worry about it. Don't rush it though if you aren't. you really should wait.