What do you do, when you're by yourself?

Question

So for the first time ever, I'm looking at being by myself, with no family, maybe a friend or two, on Christmas.

I do have an option of a) hanging w/ my ex-inlaws and my children, b) hanging out with my mom and her boyfriend, who tend to get pretty drunk and mean and nasty and fighting... or c) open presents with my babies in the morning and sit alone in front of my pc all day and all night hating christmas and the very thought of all of it while eating my chef boyardee *as all of my typical kitchens are closed damn u mcdonalds!!!*

I don't feel close enough to anyone outside of family to just say hey, merry christmas, mind if I crash ur dinner, oh wooooowww that turkey looks sooo gooood and plop right down next to them...

I don't want to hang out with a bunch of people who said vicious things about me during the custody dispute and are generally two faced, even if it turned out to be civil.

I don't want to hang out with two drunk ppl, so that I can be a witness for charges.

K, my previous ? may have been unclear.

I get my kids on the morning of christmas I have to say goodbye to them that afternoon.

I've been invited to do dinner with my ex and his parents and 20 ppl family.

they've been very hurtful and mean and I believe are currently trying to obtain custody of the children.

Then there's my mom and her mean boyfriend. Everytime I celebrate Christmas with my mom, someone gets arrested :(

Then there's being alone.

I'm trying to work on the volunteer thing, but what about before and after that?

Answer 1

You could volunteer to work at a homeless shelter. It could make you feel better about your own life and maybe meet some interesting people

Answer 2

Have Christmas in the morning with your kids. Then, if you feel up to it, volunteer at a food/soup kitchen and help with the distribution of food. If you are with other people and help those in need, you may feel wanted and feel like you're doing something important.

You can also treat yourself to a movie. Eat at nice restaurant- McDonald's may not be open anyway.

Plan ahead so you won't be lonely. Make your Christmas special- don't depend on the others who will ruin your holiday.

Do you have your kids Christmas Eve? If so, plan something fun and special for Christmas Eve- see the lights, go caroling, attend a church service, watch some old Christmas movies together and eat popcorn and junk food!

Answer 3

When I am being myself, I start to compare my past with my future. It will be interesting sometime and I myself feel ashamed at times, occasionally. To be frank, the thng that I feel ashamed of myself will be sometimes funny to be share with all of my friends and family members but when think about my dignity it was not quite qppreciable.Since , I am very carefull in each and every steps of mine and I am very much aware that each and every incident that happens in my life will reflects in my history, I would always like to be in the safer side. I want to be the role model for my sibblings and should be a stepping stone for my society.

Sometimes the things I did was realy very good and I feel proud of myself. So I would like to continue those kind of things, I have the habit of writing diary, I keep a track of things and go beyond it with an analysis and evaluation.

Still I am doing my duty in stabilizing and emphasizing me in all my virtues, I will start to suspect that am I missing the present in dealing with the plus and minus of future. Am I ?

No this is the way that I can develop myself in all aspects.

Only then i can guide another person , whomever it may concern.

Answer 4

I think Option C......But try and be joyous on Christmas, Look at the children that u have been blessed w/ and be thankful for what u have. For one day, kick back and be care free, know that u are who u are and as easy as it is to say it do not worry about those people, be a great mother to ur children and forget about them. But do not carry hatred in ur heart, let go and let him handle it. It Will get better, after the rain the sun will shine again, I promise!!!!!

Answer 5

As you said, open the presents with your children in the morning,have your Christmas dinner,then in the afternoon,play games with the children,sing some Christmas songs together. Anything that involves you and your children. Your Children are your family,be together and count your blessings. Have a FUN day together!! Failing that,come to my house,you would be very welcome!!!

Answer 6

go volunteer for a while,when you help it feels better