He doesn't seem to think he does anything wrong even through our therapist told him he is mentally abusive. I have always been the one who have made the household run and taken care of the kids. Therefore, I feel I'm the one who should stay not him. He is also a mama's boy-also confirmed by our therapist.
2006-11-24 08:31:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're gonna need a good lawyer anyway, so just go ahead and get one......he will advise you on the best course of action.
2006-11-24 08:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
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He doesn't seem to think he does anything wrong even through our therapist told him he is mentally abusive. I have always been the one who have made the household run and taken care of the kids. Therefore, I feel I'm the one who should stay not him. He is also a mama's boy-also...
2015-08-18 14:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Damien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. At a certain point (if he doesn't have the decency to leave on his own) the courts will decide who gets to stay until all is final. If you don't get the house in the settlement, you'll probably have to sell it and split the proceeds according to court ruling (may not be 50-50). Then buy a new place without all the memories.
Good luck. Heal yourself mentally before letting someone else into your life. At the first sign of this behavior, send future men packing immediately. You need it for yourself and for your kids.
2006-11-24 08:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one who leaves, looses the property, generally. So, if you are not willing to leave, set it up so that you and he are just roommates until your divorce is final.... he can cook his own food, clean his part, get yourself a hotplate and a small ref. and lock the doors into the rooms that you wish to live in. Simple. GEt the house up for sale, and end it hon. If you want out, then get out. File divorce papers jointly, use the same attorney, agree on who gets what. If you go for an adverserial position, the atty. gets it all. Life is too short to stay where you really don't want to be. You can be out of that marriage in three weeks, with your property settlement finished at the sale of your house. Price it realistically, and in 6 months you can have your life back.
2006-11-24 08:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he does not want to leave. He has the power over you and that is what it is all about....POWER. He controls you through the abuse. It is time you took back the power. The best thing you can do is to pack his things...clothes, while he is at work. Then take his clothes you packed and put them in his car or give them to someone he knows. Then change the locks on the doors to your house or apartment. Call him at work and tell him you have thrown him out....period. If he tries to harass you or make things hard on you go to the police and tell them what is going on and see if you can't get a restraining order on him. Don't back down because if you do he will continue to abuse you. Don't believe anything he tells you.
2006-11-24 08:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been going to therapy, you have "earned" your ticket out. Have a support system in play. Have someone with you when you ask him to leave. If he won't leave on his own, call the police. Your children should not be in the house when this happens. Make sure they understand what is going though.(Depending in their ages, they probably already do.)
Also, before any of this happens, go out and purchase new locks for your home. Make sure that if you cannot install them yourself, you have someone there that can immediately upon his departure I would even go as far as to have a restraining order put against him. You must prepare and protect yourself and your children for all possible scenarios.
Good Luck to you and your children.
2006-11-24 08:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know the situation but I do know this..Trying to "force" him to leave by indirect methods wont work for you. IE..Not cleaning house, cutting him off, acting badly to him..
IF you would like a divorce or separation, you must take the bull by the horns. Confront him, tell him what you want. See a lawyer, get papers drawn up..If you have no money, there is fee legal help available to people in your situation.
2006-11-24 08:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by RScott 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want out of the situation so badly then get yourself out. Especially if its a bad environment for the children. Don't keep them living in a bad deal just because you think you're right. If you're just sitting around waiting on him to leave, and you're that patient about it then maybe you don't want out as much as you're letting on.
2006-11-24 09:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by whosaysdiscoisdead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and tell your attorney you want him out. Many states have it where a policeman will go to the house and make him leave. Ask if your state has such a thing.
2006-11-24 09:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alexa, if your husband's name starts with an "M", You should have left that alone a long time ago, your girls kept warning you but you didnt listen and you even dissed them. I'm not saying you deserve it, but it really hurt when we tried to help in the begining and you shut us up and then shut us out. I dont believe that you will ever leave him.
2006-11-26 16:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would have to file for something, a restraining order a legal separation, but you are wrapped up in some deep emotions right now. Listen carefully, SECURE YOUR FINANCES NOW so that when the s--t hits the fan for the final time, you and the kids arent left holding the bag.
Hey kids,easy with the ratings.
The other option is for you to leave, which may be less of a headache in the long run.
2006-11-24 08:34:07 · answer #11 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋