on my wifes computer... and she leaves on Sunday!?

Question

My wife is going to California next week starting Sunday for work.
She travels out of town about 2 times a year. Its always a large group of people (as far as i know).
She left her work laptop here at home, and it was still running when she ran to the store.
I'll admit i snopped a little - and I found an email titled "California here we come"
It was from a guy named Wayne - no idea who that is - and the only thing he wrote was
"I cant wait to be with you for 6 days."
If i confront her - she will know i was snooping -
BUT...can that email mean something innocent??
I dont want to jump to any conclusions if there is a possibility that email can be taken a different way.
On the weird side of things - i found the email yesterday - and my wife and i had awesome sex last night. Its almost exciting for some reason to think about her sleeping with another guy for a week.
Should I confront her?? Can that email be read differently??

Thanks

Answer 1

That's the problem with snooping, sometimes you find things that are totally irrelevant to the issue. Give your wife the benefit of the doubt, believe me, if she is cheating it will come out. Don't accuse her when your not even sure.

Answer 2

So start at the beginning and think this through.

1. First you were snooping.
2. That would take care of the trust she has in you.
3.Lets say you confront her and its innocent or
4.You confront her and she says they have a relationship.
5.are you ready to end your marriage over this?
6.Or are you turned on?

THINK THIS ALL THE WAY THROUGH.

The guy could be a fellow worker that has a crush on her and it means nothing to her. Just coincidence that they go for the same job.

I used to work out of town about 4 days a month and it was like a mini vacation. I always came home grateful to be back. Hotels and eating out everyday isn't all that much fun.

Be careful and don't ruin a relationship over nothing.

When we are all PERFECT we can then judge!

Answer 3

get back on her computer. email "Wayne" back pretending to be your wife. Give him YOUR email address to reply to...tell him "I think my husband is snooping through my emails, so reply to this email address instead, he doesn't know about it." Pretending to be your wife, ask him vague questions about the trip-remember, the email may be totally innocent. (probably not, but maybe.) He may just be some client, so you don't want to make him scratch his head-or worse-make him WANT to try to screw your wife by asking him questions like "Which flavored condom do you want to try first?" Instead ask neutral questions like-"What should I bring", "Are the rooms nice?" (see if he'll give any clues as to who will be sleeping where.) "How much free time will we have?" "What is first on the agenda?" "Will it be a problem if I have to call home often"....You get the idea. When you get the reply, tell him it's ok to use your old email address again. Hopefully he won't mention the switch or discuss the questions with your wife when she arrives. You could hide a keylogger on the laptop to get her PW & read her other emails-if you can again gain access to the laptop. You could hire a PI to follow here while she's there-if you're filthy rich, that is. Personally, I'd just try to catch her off guard right before she leaves and ask her point blank from out of nowhere: "Who's Wayne?" Guage her reaction...does she hesitate to answer? Does she rush to accuse you of snooping before answering? If she does, you HAVE your answer. If you believe her, cover your snooping by explaining that you spilled something near the laptop, had to move it, and the email was right there on her screen, you couldn't help but see it. If she has nothing to hide, she won't mind, and she won't doubt that it's possible that she left the email window open. If she tells you something that seems like BS, call the hotel "confirm your reservation" & ask who booked the room and whose name it's under, & how many will be staying there. Is she going for ordinary business or is it some kind of company event? Confirm with the hotel that there is actually a company event going on. Get a bellboy on the line & wire him $100 bucks to keep an eye on her, and promise more when the job is done. If it turns you on that she's cheating, wire the bellboy $50 bucks to screw her and then call you back with a play by play.

Answer 4

I think she is having an affair with a colleague.
I suggest a direct confrontation.- Ask her who Wayne is, and what is the connection between the both of them. Tell her you snooped and saw the e-mail. And make sure you ask her when she is with you and not over the phone in California.
Just because she has awesome sex with you doesn't mean she might not be having a fling on the other side.

Answer 5

She is cheating on you. You know it and you even accept the idea of her being with another man. Your subconcious is making you believe you like this (it turns you on) just to make it easier on your feelings of being cheated on.
You also fear confrontation. What I would do is call her and tell her. She cant get mad at you for snooping because if it wasnt for that you would have never find out about this. She is cheating, there is no way that sentence can be read as anything else. ask her how would she feel if you would receive an email like that?

CONFRONT HER BEFORE SHE LEAVES!!!!

Good luck

Answer 6

that letter and sentence might mean that the work she is doing is a big help to this guy and he is glad she is coming to help right there with it.
if you really want to know the answer hire a pi to check up on her over there. should be simple enough and not cost to much as its only 6 days she will be there and you have a name so supply that to the pi and find out.
others will say trust her talk to her and a bunch of other crap none of which will really leave you sure that she is not fooling around only proof from the pi will settle your mind once and for all

Answer 7

Curiosity is a complex creature; it tends to only overcome common-sense when it is accompanied by its comrades boredom or fear.
Ask yourself, if you could change anything about your relationship, what would you change? Is your sex life satisfing? do you feel you speak less and less with your partner, or that when you do speak it is not as meanigful as you would like? Perhaps your relationship is doing fine, and a collegue merely appreciates her sense of humour/good listening skills/or any other quality that you too enjoy. There are many people I would like to spend quality time with for six days in a change of surroundings; however I would not want anything more physical with any of them. What you may need more than anything is to do something really fun and out of the ordinary when she is away or reconnect with a friend or family member who's company you enjoy.

Answer 8

Yeah, i might have a undertaking with this. while he spends time together with his son, he could be coming over on your place and spending time together with his father there with you lined. The ex-spouse could bow out of the image. you're able to set some obstacles in this concern, in any different case no longer something is going to alter. Your boyfriend isn't respecting your thoughts right here in any respect. do no longer pass returned in basic terms yet until the two one among you may arise with some limitations on the region. If he does not choose to alter something, then your greater appropriate off without him. solid luck!

Answer 9

Wow! I would probably not confront her but then i would go nuts the six days she is gone. I would probably wait and call her or if you can fly to California and surprise her ...I would take it as more then a 'friendly' email I mean it says i cant wait to be with you for six days..that says more then a friend to me.

Answer 10

I would ask her what is up with the email....I snooped on my ex husband that is how I found out he was cheating. I am sorry the thought of my man sleeping with someone else then coming home to me and my kids is nasty...._