my mother in law smokes and she won't quit. she said that if i dont let my baby go to see her she will get grandparents rights and the baby will have to be exposed to smoke everyday in her house. they chain smoke and when you walk in there house it's like walking in a bar with everyone smoking. That can kill a baby. What can I do?? does she have a chance of getting grandparents rights?? I dont want my baby dying of sids or anything else.
2006-11-24 08:15:00 · 13 answers · asked by mommyinneedofhelp 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry but your mother in law is a selfish ***** for lack of a better term. What great concern she shows for her own flesh and blood, i tell ya. I can imagine what a loving mother she was to your husband. If she doesnt care about your childrens health then too bad, you're the mother , stand up for your children. (btdt!)
2006-11-24 08:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mina222 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't if any studies have been done on the effects of second hand smoke on the unborn and I really question the studies of second hand smoke period because they are paid for by anti-smoking groups to begin with.
Your mother-in-law can visit your child at your home any time you care to let her and she can go outside if she needs to light up. She can stay home and smoke to her hearts content if she doesn't want to abide by your wish that the baby not be exposed to smoke.
Most anti-smoking people simply repeat what they have heard as the absolute truth and don't look at the facts or how the tests are conducted (much the same as with other issues).
I am a non-smoker by choice,but I have been exposed to second hand smoke most of my life and I have not been diagnosed with lung cancer or any other disease associated with smoking (I'm 57). I think it is mostly a genetic thing anyway because non-smokers have been diagnosed with smoking related problems and never smoked.
2006-11-24 08:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I easily agree that no toddler or toddler could be subjected to passive smoking and that i trust different posters that your husband desires to handle this concern. the place i think of you're the two going to could make some annoying options is around the childcare situation. you may tell her you do no longer choose her to smoke around your toddler yet on an analogous time as you're at artwork she will the two smoke in the toddler's presence or leave the toddler unsupervised on an analogous time as she nips out for a ciggy and that toddler will all too quickly be crawling and then toddling. Your particularly between a rock and a complicated place, you desire her loose childcare provider yet she smokes. Dictating what she does in her own residence is impossible.
2016-12-13 13:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to scare you. Tell her that the baby WILL NOT be able to visit her home (Even if they don't smoke inside while baby is there the smoke lingers). Tell her that if she tries to take you to court that you will NEVER allow her to see the baby! Not all states have Grandparent's rights and no judge will make you expose your baby to those toxic fumes!
2006-11-24 08:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Click the link below to see the risks of second-hand smoke during pregnancy. (Scroll down to "Children's health threats from secondhand smoke".)
Issues between women and their mothers-in-law are difficult to resolve because you're not blood relatives. Plus, your mother-in-law is a smoker, and cigarettes to her are like drugs. It's all about getting her smokes. Print out the information from the links I've given you. Hopefully she'll see that this reputable medical center (Mayo Clinic) has grave warnings about exposing pregnant women to smoke. At least your arguments will be backed up, and it won't be purely a "personal" issue.
Good luck.
2006-11-24 08:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by RolloverResistance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get so involved in this. you could probably get a judge to order her not to smoke around the kid even if she had grandparents rights. just let this go. invite her to your place to
be with the baby. tell her the doctor said the baby CANNOT be around any smoke or its health is at risk. any doctor should be able to tell you this. or get a letter from a doctor and show it to her. but not now, after the baby is born.
2006-11-24 08:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant get grandparents rights just cuz you wont let her see the baby. you are the childs parent. you have every right to keep your baby out of her home if she wont quit, but maybe she could see the child at a place where smoking is not allowed.
2006-11-24 08:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to see the baby, then let her come to your house where you do not allow smoking. there is no court in the world that would give this person "grandparents" rights when they obviously will be putting the baby in harms way.
2006-11-24 08:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't do that...you have every right to decide what, who and where your baby goes to visit. That is not a good atmosphere for a newborn or any child to be in. Your baby won't die from SIDS from being in smoke.
2006-11-24 08:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no such things as "grandparent" rights....and two, when my ex and i split i got a judge order that my son could not be around smoke because he has lung problems, and he did it anyway (his parents smoke..bad) and they found him guilty when i took him back to court. you can get a judge order if you have to but you shouldnt have to because there are no such things are grandparents rights. you are the mother, you have control, not her! screw her and her selfishness!!!
2006-11-24 08:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋