I had been Molested when i was 5..?

Question

I had never told anyone in my family.. Infact this is the first time Im even talking about it.. 4 so long i had been scared and ashamed.. I fear men and i don't trust anyone. I feel sometimes i live a fake life.. Eeveryone around me thinks that im strong and have a total control over my life.. I don't like feeling pity for my self cause i refuse to live like a Victim. Every time i think of my past i wanna cry.. im so hurt that i find it had to cry.. I wanna live a normal life im sick and tired of pretending.. Why can't i forget..?

Smially.. I find it hard to believe that anyone would claim to be molested. I certainally don't.. and there is nothing childish about how i feel.. u should thank god u don't have to go through that..

Answer 1

Apart from the fact that the bastard who did it to you should have something really bad happen to him, you should, you MUST, see and understand that it was not your fault. There is no way in which you can possibly be blamed for it. You did not do it therefore you cannot allow yourself to believe that it is somehow your fault... therefore nothing to be ashamed of!! It was not your fault. You were 5 for God's sake !!! Next time you come across a 5-year old little girl, look at her and then ask yourself if that kid could possibly be guilty of anything like that !! That is what 'innocence' means... the inability to understand most things. You dnot need to forget it even... just REMEMBER that you were a victim and that it was nothing to do with you.

Answer 2

I'm sorry this happen to you but let me tell you, you are not alone this happens to millions of people around the world. the reason you cant forget about it, is because u haven't learned to accept it, you havent learned to talk about it or be open about therefor you cant ever let it go. the fact that you havent told ur family and ur playing a roll of a strong girl isnt right because its just all building up inside of you and one day its going to burst unexpectedly. the best thing for you to do is talk about it if not to your family then someone else you can trust let it all out and learn to accept what happen and move forward grow from this experience and know that life goes on , yes things happen but that dosent mean it should stay with us for ever put it in a box and put it away only after you talk about it and let all of ur emotions out. you will feel alot better and always remember its not ur fault so dont ever blame ur self and dont think if u told your family they would get mad because u couldn't of done anything about it. be strong and trust me u have to go through the rain to get to the rainbow

Answer 3

I would see a Psychiatrist and possibly get medications to help calm you. But be careful, prescriptions often a need for people once they start. Also, the most important thing you can do is pray. It may help to talk to your family about it. There is nothing to be ashamed of because it was out of your hands, plus you were only 5. God bless you.

Answer 4

Not to minimize your experience I would think from a certain perspective you should make some comparisons from others and how they have evolved and survived.There are many who have lived even more extreme situations and have been forced to live a life in servitude or slavery.Many who are victims or perpetrators are at one time the same.If you could turn back their clock in their lifetime you might see them differently as just another victim of the same disease or program.It's my understanding that at certain ages we cannot cope with controlling environments or experiences and it remains hidden until later in life when we can or should.It's like cleaning out the closet.Remember you are not a ghost but a survivor.

Answer 5

(5? Are you absolutely sure? If 1975 is your birthday that makes you 31. If you are for real you need to get over it. or quit moping about it. A lot of folks claim they were molested when they were way Young as you and there was no molesting involved. (I am not inferring that yours was not). and all they did was destroy peoples lives. Even when found innocent the damage has already Been done. Just be sure you know what you are doing. For someone, if you are 31 it seems a bit childish I think.

Answer 6

Its not something you just get over. You need to talk to somebody about it. If you don`t think you`re ready to tell a family member or close friend, go to a therapist. Just talk about it to someone in purpose. Its okay to cry. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You did nothing wrong, no matter what you were told. Its not your fault. I`m sorry to hear that you`re afriad of men, but you need to try to get past it. The man you molested you was not mentally stable. It doesn`t mean that all men are bad. Have you ever met a woman who was horrible? It doesn`t mean that every woman is. You don`t need to forget, don`t try to. Its hard, but what you need to do is talk to a therapist or someone and try to work as much of your problems out as you can. After that, you need to try to focus on the future and let the past be the past. Its easier said than done, and I understand that, but you owe it to yourself to at least try.

Answer 7

This is something nobody forgets. Is this person still around? It's very very important you talk through this with a counselor specializing in sex abuse.

Also very very important to realize you did nothing wrong.

There are many people out here who have experienced the same thing. If you can't afford a counselor, you might think about joining a support group.

Answer 8

You are going to have to tell someone, if it's bothering you this much. You can't keep it bottled up inside, sooner or later it's gonna just explode.

You can speak to family or friends. Or, you can speak with a consellor who doesn't know you or your family and they are not to say anything to anyone it's strictly confidential. I think it would be better if you told a counsellor and get it off your chest, you would feel a whole lot better, promise. They won't force you to do anything like pressing charges, or stuff like that. They would give you advice on how to deal with it.

Answer 9

I went through the same thing when I was 10. I didn't tell anyone untill six years later, just two weeks ago. Don't feel guilty anout what happened, it was not your fault. It is a really hard thing to forget, noone gets over it completely, not without counselling. If you want to talk you can email me.

Answer 10

You need seek therapy and I don't mean that in a bad way. Or find a family member or friend you trust and talk about it. You never know, they could have been molested as well. Good luck and God bless!