I'm a recent lesbian...I havent came out to my family yet...but I dont live at home...all my friends kno of course. I recently moved to an area for a program dealing with the outdoors. I'm so scared to come out up here...cuz the place I work at is not very "gay-safe". Even tho they enforce a "safe zone". I've been here for 2 months and have been playing the straight role...I'm sick of it...what am I suppose to do?
2006-11-24 07:53:19 · 5 answers · asked by MC like WHAT! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I live with these people(at work) and I'm 700 miles from home...where all my real friends are @!
2006-11-24 08:56:40 · update #1
You haven't been there very long and you could be making judgments about people too. They might not react a badly as you think.
But - I would give yourself a bit of time to make some friends and then slowly break the news - like find out generally what they think of gay people without coming out. Like gee, did you know that Portia De Rossi is gay? or Ellen for example. See what they say. I usually wait until i have met people I think I could be friends with before telling them.
Also when you say 'playing the straight role' I'm assuming that you mean saying that you have a boyfriend back home of (fake) giggling when all the girls coo at some guy?
It's really hard and you have my total sympathy - however try and stay neutral for a bit longer until you have properly figured out how the land lies with these people. If you act too straight they will feel betrayed and confused when you come out to them.
2006-11-25 05:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never come out if you're scared and have no support. Remember Teena Brandon and Mathew Shepard. You don't have to be straight like dating guys - you can be neutral. I'd start looking for a new place to live. This is a lesbian speaking - I am all for everybody being out all the time....except when it puts you in danger.
2006-11-24 18:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by jane7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your work at work and your personal life at home. If your coworkers bug you about your personal life, let them know that during business time it's business only. I work in a diverse environment and so have many people that I've talked to. This is a very good way of preventing problems on the job. Outside of work, hang out with other LGBT people and avoid the homophobes.
2006-11-24 16:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find the gay community and COME ON OUT!!!!
Yeah its tough, I live in a Christian country and my Best Friend is a lesbian...they protest gays here so imagine. she's open within the community but outside its like don't bother just so you don't have to hear the nonsense.
Get a safetynet first...or move.
2006-11-24 15:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your friends know, who else would need to ? i personally hear more then i want to know,, at work, from both straights and gays! if you mean you need companionship, then yes see if there is a local organization in your area
2006-11-24 15:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋