I'm a very abusive person more verbal than physical and I don't like how I sound to myself and how I make others around me feel including my children. When I get upset I say really mean things even though I don't do them it makes everybody around me feel bad including myself, I grew up with anger surrounding me and I want to break free from that angry cycle I'm tired of being angry I want to be truley happy. Can you recommend a web site, diet ect. for happiness just not counseling been there left more angry.
2006-11-24 07:44:45 · 9 answers · asked by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Great book:
"The Dance of Anger - A woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships" by Harriet Lerner, PhD
In paperback for about $14.00
2006-11-24 07:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will change your behavior other than some kind of counseling or maybe an anger management course. Church may also help... I do know because I've lived with an angry person for 3 three years now. I have seen him struggle with this same issue!
2006-11-24 15:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nickie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Retrain YOURSELF. You can do it.
1. Never lay a hand on your children in violence or anger.. My daughter had to leave my presence when I was angry or I went to my bedroon to calm down.
2. Next, decide to never again use another fowl or filthy word.
3. When you feel anger coming on, remove yourself from the situation.
4. As you reign in these tendencies you will become a calmer person.
My favorite line is"How do you eat an Elephant?"
One bite at a time.
Work on one thing at a time, to get yourself under control. You can do it. I did it .
Happy Holidays and Best wishes for a successful transformation.
2006-11-24 15:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diet is only a small part of your rehabilitation. I think you need to take your therapy a little more seriously. Doesn't seem like you gave it a chance. Anger management classes may be a start
2006-11-24 15:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell people to REALLY go away before u get to angry. And try to treat people as nicly as u can just so u are a better person (NOT then they are just u yourself are better then u are) and if they're mean to u know u are the better person. And try to do as many happy things as possible.
2006-11-24 15:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
St. Johns Wort or some other mood helping herb, yoga, massages, count to ten, read a book, go for a walk, go to the library and get books out on the subject, I did.
2006-11-24 15:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is the most basic cure.
"Think before you speak."
It works for me. Think of how you would feel if someone said that to you. Take a few seconds to answer.
And by the way, diets won't help.
2006-11-24 15:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you seek help from a pastor at a church and also read The Holy Bible. Praying helps and asking God into your life helps. domestic violence counseling helps too.
2006-11-24 15:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by midnightwolf99_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would jus let go for awhile like go on a vacation or somethin and i would try to hold my anger in and if u do that to your kids then they will stop loving u i mean i know i will if you were my parent
2006-11-24 15:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by Catherine S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋