I logged onto her myspace page after reading her public comments. She doesn't know I can log on to her myspace page. But after reading some of her public comments I had too. I found out that she has someone on the side that is also in the army. Should I confront her about it and maybe mess up our relationship?
2006-11-24 07:43:09 · 20 answers · asked by natedogg382 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your relationship is already messed up.
It is not to late for an annulment!
2006-11-24 07:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello first of all I want to say that I am in the army as well and I just returned for Iraq. My husband just went through the same thing. Yes I know that I was wrong. We had been married fro 4 months and I cheated on my husband. I came home on leave and he found out. And he confronted me about it. I didn't know what to do. I didn't think that we were going to make it. But I am so glad that he said something to me, because it brought me back to him. I realize how much I loved him and how wrong I was in the first place. If he would have never said anything to me then I think that we would not be together today. I really think that you should say something to your wife, but it is best to do it in person. Don't tell here over the phone, because she can hang up the phone and think about what she want to say. It is harder to do it in person but it is the best way to go. Trust me it will only help your relationship. Good Luck
2006-11-24 08:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your military wife is cheating on you, than there are steps that you can take to walk away from her civilly. First of all, Contact her Unit Commander and tell him what is happening. Second of all, They will inform the Military Police and conduct an investigation. Finally, You will be assigned a Judge Advocate that will review your case, and make a judgment. At least you will be able to walk away with your head held high. The military does not condone adulterous behavior. Especially, if it is two of their own. It is important to note: If you have substantial proof, keep it and make future recordings.
2006-11-24 11:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should! If she has someone on the side isn't your relationship already a mess? Her being there is a difficult situation to begin with...you need to be honest with her and let her know how you found out and start from there. Trust has been broken, thats a huge issue and needs to be dealt with. Good Luck
2006-11-24 07:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by karenschonert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in Iraq and you are not. Your marriage is already messed up. AND, there is nothing you can do about it. Its either tell her you know and she will not be finding a home upon her return or do not tell her and wait for her to come and get her stuff out of storage.
Sorry Dude.
At the risk of sounding totally heartless, might I ask, Why did you marry her with the knowledge that she was being deployed?
2006-11-24 07:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how dare you log onto her myspace page! That is such a terrible thing to do, even if something was going on or not. You should confront her about it, not sneak around through her stuff. But, it's too late to go back. So, talk to her about it. And in the end if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. Next time, don't put your nose where it doesn't belong!
2006-11-24 07:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Talking to her about it will cause some uncomfortable results, but it's the best way to find out the truth. If you've been married only 2 months & she's all ready cheating, then there is some serious issues there that need to be resolved. Sit down & talk to her. Then you'll know what you need to do from there.
2006-11-24 07:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, I don't see the proof, unless you're not telling us what it said. I would confront her about it, if she only talks to another guy on myspace and tell her it bothers you. If you have solid proof based on the things said or some other form of proof, then just leave her and never speak another word to her.
2006-11-24 07:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her you know but also give her permission. Having some one she can release with is, realistically, helpful when one is at war and can be blown up at any second, especially in a theatre and conflict where soldiers cannot become involved with local girls or guys and prostitutes are not tolerated. You need to understand. Tell her you hope she can revert to being faithful once she is back home, if that's what you would like.
2006-11-24 07:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may be in a war zone but it don't mean she can use that as an excuse for cheating on you, especially after only being married 2 months. Its up to you but I would not let her away with it.
2006-11-24 07:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not just yet. wait and see if she comes out and says anything after all you did invade her privacy. not only did you log into an account that wasn't yours, you read everything inside there too. I know when you are in a relationship you should be completely honest with each other but people need there privacy too. think about it.
2006-11-24 07:49:05 · answer #11 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋