need help catching my cheating hubby?

Question

I was reading all the replys I recived about my hubby not putting out for weeks, Now I need help but it's going to be hard.

Answer 1

What, are you asking for a female volunteer to sleep with him??

Answer 2

You need help, it's going to be hard? Freudian slip there, or subconscious imagery.
Answer: You can not assume he's cheating just because he hasn't been having sex as much. There are many causes of that, with stress being the number one.
There are many signs of a cheater, and you can never go by a single sign. Look up the signs of spouse cheating and go through the checklist. If you see many signs, then there's a problem.
Keep on eye on his phone habits, find out where he's going...

Answer 3

Why? If he is cheating, it is grounds for divorce. Almost all states now are No Fault divorce, and everything falls under irreconcilable differences --- you won't get any more money one way or the other. If you know he is cheating, tell him so, and get out. You can get internet papers for divorce, or get an attorney to arbitrate the division of your property--These guys fill stuff out, and file it for you for less thatn $300. n If you and he can decide who gets what, and all he has to do is fill in the blanks, it's cheap.... It begins to be expensive big time if you go for the adversarial position, use PI's each of you hires an attorney, and all the rest of it. Hey, $-hit happens, marriages die--why make it any more painful than it is. He's cheated? Isn't that the deal-breaker? You want out? Get out. Life is toooooo short to have wounds filled with salt...

Answer 4

Irreconcilable differences is grounds for a divorce. Why do you want to bother catching him cheating. If you are not happy that should be good enough reason for ending the relationship. All you are doing is causing your self more hurt.

Ask yourself, are you Happy? If the answer is no then you need to then ask yourself what changes can you make in your life that would put you on the road to happiness? And then start down that road. Life is a journey. We pass this way but once. Its up to you to find a journey that please you. NOT up to anyone else. Not a husband or a boyfriend or your friends. It is up to you.

You are responsible for your life.

Answer 5

The best help you'll ever get... is to sit down & ask him. Come right out & just ask. Talking with him will accomplish more than spending money on any investigators. If your relationship has come down to this, then there's a problem somewhere that needs to be resolved. Playing "hide & seek" isn't going to get it done. When you sit down & talk with him, you might discover there's much more to the picture than first viewed. If he's not wanting or willing to work things out, then you know the relationship is over & it's time to move on.

Answer 6

DO NOT confront him until you have concrete proof. He will DENY, DENY, DENY...then start being even MORE careful. Put a keylogger on your computer to get his passwords. Then check his email, what websites he visits, and his instant messenger archives. Question him & his friends non-chalantly. Don't pressure for answers, but make notes of what he tells you for later comparison. Check his phone log and bill for suspicious calls. Check his wallet, pockets, car for receipts from places he shouldn't have been. You can always stalk him, plant cameras/recorders in his car, or your house for when he's home alone...but can u live w/yourself if you indulge in this kind of behavior? My girl confessed to cheating once-out of the blue-I had no clue or suspicion. She swore it was only once w/ one person, but NOW i was suspicious. I hacked her email, found out she'd been w/ half a dozen other people, and was planning to meet MORE! I guess she only admitted to the one so I'd trust her for being so honest- or to test my reaction. Since now I already had all the proof, I kept my mouth shut to see if she'd continue. She didn't, she dropped them all and seemed to be faithful. But she continually lied about her feelings for one of them, so I confronted her about that & all of the cheating-which she denied so well that even w/ proof in her own emailed words I nearly believed her denials. Then I started naming names, places and dates. Her jaw hit the floor, she confessed, and I wanted to forgive her, but then I knew I couldn't trust her at all, so I started stalking her. I know I should have just dumped her, but I loved her. Then I realized I could not live with myself as the person I was becoming, so I dumped her. (altho it turns out much of my paranoia was NOT paranoia). Point is, trust your feelings. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Even if it isn't, you may wind up destroying your relationship yourself by giving in to doubt, fear and paranoia. So that takes you back to square one: you just don't know what is going on. That leaves 2 options: #1. Stay. If you love him, continue the relationship. Eventually he'll screw up on his own & you'll know the truth. Or if you're lucky, his guilt will make him confess. #2. Go. When in doubt, get out. That's my motto.

Answer 7

if you have a shared phone plan try to check his call records and find out who the phone numbers belong to and you can found out what excuses he is making and see if he is telling the truth or is really out with another person. being cheated on is hard but if they are cheating ended it you don't need that in your life. you'll be better off without them

Answer 8

I've been watching Cheaters every Saturday Night from 12mn to 1am at Channel 6. I don't know what channel it is in your area. You can probably check out their site, cheaters.com. I know they help out people who are being cheated on for free but they have to televise it. They have private investigators & they help out a lot of relationships.

Answer 9

there should have been an established level of trust and commitment before yall got married so you wouldnt have this problem. he is a **** and if he cant be a man and step up and accept responbsibility for his wrong-doings, then you need to call it quits. if you let him get away with this, he will just do it again.

Answer 10

follow his a*** use. A friend of mine put a tape recorder in her husbands car and found out from a telephone conversation he had w/his friend that he was cheating on her. Good luck and dont put up with sh*&**

Answer 11

Help yourself out. Can all the intrigue and ask him what's going on.