what can you say to your depressed friend?

Question

i am talking with a friend he is really depressed ,i dont know how to make him feel better:(i love him so much and he is special to me~

Answer 1

Hug him and tell him how special he is to you. Let him know you are there for him and that you are there to listen any time he needs to talk. Try to get him to go out and be among other people that's really important; it's so easy to withdraw from others and to close down. He just needs to know that somebody does care and is willing to listen when he's willing to talk.

Answer 2

Don't say much on line but the usual things he brings up. Get to know all his world. You know you won't tell him yours. Time will give you a pattern and history and the exchange of aura will establish the emotions of love. Even love can be turned into a chemical change like depression. Remember he is an honest person. You need him more than some jackass winner player who will only hurt you later. You are not only intelligent but kind too. Teach him to share as soon as he understands it. Call me to explain how his letters show so little love when you know it is there. Can you trust another recovered bipolar or do you think they are all hopeless.

Answer 3

Sometimes it's best to just listen. When my friends are feeling bad about something, I always try to find a way to put a funny twist on the situation. Not to belittle anyone's feelings or the issue, but just to help lighten the load. If you find a way to laugh at a problem, it somehow seems to make it more manageable. Especially if it's one of those cases where "10 years from now this is going to be really funny." Why wait? If he can laugh now he'll feel better sooner. Good luck to you both!

Answer 4

There's only so much you can do to help a person who's depressed. They have to do the hard part themselves, which includes finding something that snaps them out of it. While it's nice that they have you for a friend, be careful that they don't suck you into their drama. If the depression is over a break-up or loss of some kind, all you can do is to encourage them to talk about it as much as they need. But, don't allow them to continue wallowing in their grief. Some people actually don't want to overcome their grief, and get a certain satisfaction over all the attention they get. As soon as the attention stops, they say something stupid, like suicide, or other such thing. I'm not saying that this is your friend...just cautioning you. I would say that, after a couple of weeks of listening to their depressed thoughts, encourage them to get beyond it. Tell them it's way past time to move on and find some positive things to focus on. Get them to do physical things, like biking, skateboarding, playing basketball, airhockey or some other physical fun thing. It gets them out of their depressing thoughts, and onto something healthy. If they don't want to do anything, suggest they get some professional help, because, as their friend, you cannot allow them to continue to wallow in their depression. Life MUST go on, and they have to wake up to that fact. Whatever their situtation is, it CAN be overcome, if they desire to do so. You're not a counselor, but you are a friend. Your job is to be a friend, which it sounds like you have been doing. <*)))><

Answer 5

Well they say that laughter is the best medicine so try to make him laugh. If he dont know about y!A then introduce him to it, i'm sure that some of these quest/ans will make him laugh. But i guess it would depend on why he's depressed. maybe he needs more than what you can offer if so offer to go with him to talk to someone. But be there for him no matter what. we all need a friend

Answer 6

I'm trying to be serious here...Did you try to express your feelings with a physical gradification for love making. Sexual contact always has immediate saratonin increases. Sometimes an increase in this harmone is enough to jumpstart people out of their depression. It also sound like it will unblock your feeling for your friend. Just an observation...maybe it time to move your relationship to the next level.

Answer 7

I've found that words are less important then presence. Just being there and showing that you care is the important thing. Remember that nothing you can say is going to fix it all. Time will do its job; just help him make it there.

Answer 8

Just being there and talking to them and trying to make them feel better.

Answer 9

encourage him to get medical help. without meds he's not going to improve, and just be there for him. i friend of mine was going through this a few months ago and all the talking in the world didn't help until he got on meds.

Answer 10

tell him some jokes, tell him some things to keep his mind off of the things that make him depressed. also, let him no u r there for him