I am 18 and engaged to my bf of 2 1/2 years. Recently i have started college and well he chose to leave after first month. I dont understand why he keeps blowing up at me for everything i have tried to speak to him about it but that makes it worse.I finally picked my major and minor( buisness/ communications) and was so happy i went to tell him and he blew me off.I recently found that i enjoy acting was in a play with a friend he put me down for no reason saying it was B.S.My cousin recomended me to try some commercial modeling for some extra cash since i am 5 ft 6 106 ponds, high cheek bones, olive skin, big dark brown eyes/cury hair, and a clear face.This made him angry enough to threaten to break up with me if i did.
2006-11-24 07:13:08 · 13 answers · asked by Penny D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know he is going through some things not having a job and have tried to be supportive but he never wants to do anything and snaps constantly at me.
2006-11-24 07:14:35 · update #1
He seems to be very insecure.
2006-11-24 07:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dropped out of college and you continued and he was angry at your success.
He criticizes something you enjoy.
He doesn't support you when you try a new opportunity.
You're 18 and not married. Can you imagine what life with him will be when (or if) you do get married.
At your age, you are ready to try and explore. It is innocent, you were not cheating, but he doesn't like it. Read what the others and myself are saying and understand that the problem is not with the things that you do, but with him.
Just because you are engaged doesn't allow him to control what you want to do. Just because you are engaged doesn't mean that you HAVE to marry him. You are 18. You have your life in front of you. I know that you have heard it before, and I did at your age, but its true.
You can either allow him to continue to stiffle you or you have to be ready to stand up for yourself.
If he can't handle your dreams then you will do better without him.
I'm sorry, but it's true.
2006-11-24 07:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you putting up with this treatment? He's obviously suffering from severe inferiority when comparing himself to your success, happiness, and achievement.
You can do MUCH better than taking care of this problem child.
By the way, the second to last sentence in your text almost sounds like a commercial. We get it. It underscores the reason that you need to leave this guy in your past and pursue your own interests.
2006-11-24 07:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your successes are equalling his failures to him.
It also seems like he is not dealling appropriately with his anger. I would be careful. You may want to cool things off abit for now.
Honestly, 18 is no age to be marrying anyone. And unless you plan on a 10 year engagement (which is ridiculous and unnecessary) I would back off and let things settle before you do anything like get married.
He has to sort this out for himself.
2006-11-24 07:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are two young to be thinking about marriage, you are on the right track with getting an education and making something of yourself. don't let him derail you because he can't get his act together.
He seems to be jealous and probably realizes that he made a mistake by dropping out and watching and listening to you is a put down for him, so he puts you down before you or someone can put him down. It is his ego. You are to young to concern yourself with his issues. Take care of you.
2006-11-24 07:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by JAY5859 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be medical issues that's causing these outbursts... or it could be a million & one things causing it. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't put up with it. The next time he blew up at me I'd blow right back. Tell him to back up his turkey truck & take a chill pill. Then I'd tell him if he couldn't be happy for me to hit the road, because you deserve to be treated with dignity & respect. If he can't support you in your decisions, then don't marry him because unless he steps up to the plate & takes responsibility for his actions, he's just going to get worse.
2006-11-24 08:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and space, Listen to him rather that always wanting to tell him stuff. Your relationship does not seem too bad you can still make it work if you handel the situvation well, Take care, all the best.
2006-11-24 07:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Joltbolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is SO jealous and threatened by everything you are doing, because he is not doing anything with his life. He really has low self esteem. He is the type that will not be able to handle your success.
2006-11-24 07:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave!!! Your to young to have to put up with the bull,you already have a lot going for you.be happy.Let him go since he already let himself go.He's going no where.
2006-11-24 09:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels threatened as u excell he doesn't, and he is jelous of you, and thinks he may loose u. he doesn't feel too good about himself right now. he would feel better if u had nothing either.
2006-11-24 07:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous!!!
2006-11-24 07:15:11 · answer #11 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋