Should my 17 year old daughter be aloud to do this?

Question

my whole family shares this account. My daughter showed me this site

so, my 17 year old daughter been going out to the movies a lot. She doesnt tell me who with just ask if she can go. i dont ask who with I just tend to let her go since I know one of the people with her. Her friends drive her around. Should she be aloud to do this?

Answer 1

Trust is important at that age. But you have to set limits with her. Maybe sit her down and talk with her. When I was a little younger my mother required that if I was going out somewhere to call her and let her know where I was going and who I was with so as to not worry her. A cellphone would be a good idea too. When I was 15 and was in high school my parents worried about me taking the bus. My school was in a bad part of the city and so they felt it was safer to have a phone on hand. In your case you should just up front ask her who she's going to the movies with. Respect her privacy but assert your role as parent. Its okay to ask who she's with and where she is as long as you're not hiding in a tree spying on her every second. Personally I believe that parents and their children should have a close bond and should be able to talk with each other. My mother and I are really close, we talk about everything. By being open it makes for a close relationship. Its your right to worry for her welfare. Just let her know you do what you do because you love her.

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Answer 2

At 17, if you don't allow kids to be who they are and go out with their friends then when they are 18 or when they get to college they tend to go crazy with the freedom. If your daughter has a cell phone, just ask her to keep it on and with her, not so you can call and check in, but if she needs a ride or whatever so you can be in contact with her. If she doesn't have a cell, then just ask that she finds a way to contact you. Make sure she knows her curfew if she has one.
And if she does call and needs a ride, try not to give her the third degree on the way home, she probably feels bad enough already. Remember, we have all been there too, we know what it's like to be teenagers. If nothing else, strive to recall your own days of youth and how you would have prefered your parents to handle such situations.
Children are our future...literally, they chose our nursing homes, so be good to your kids.

Answer 3

If you haven't instilled the basics of good judgement and reason within this youngster by now---you are not going to make much headway in doing so now---So-- being so close to the eighteenth birthday thing when she will do what she wants anyway---she has time on her side with her actions at this point anyway

Although--a good point can be made here for the simple thing of being able to reach her in case of emergencies that might come up---and she should know by now that it is not a good idea for anyone in this day and age to be trekking out into the absolute unknown without someone knowing some basics of what --when--where----to do otherwise is simply an invite to disaster !!!!

Answer 4

Well, it depends on your daughter. Is she a responsible 17 year old or has she had trouble making good decisions in the past. If i were I'd make it a point to at least get to know the names of the other friends she will be with. The one friend that you know - what is that friend like? Are THEY responsible? Do you trust these friends to look out for her well-being as they are driving her around in their cars? Do their parents have involvement in their activities? You have to take all of these things into consideration. If she's a responsible 17 year old, there shoudln't be a problem, if she's not hanging around a good crowd, make her butt stay home.

Answer 5

I have a 17 year old and if she asks to go out, I always ask who she is going with and how she tends to get there if I am not the one taking her and bringing her. Its being a responsible parent. Although most teens dont go where they say they are going and end up somewhere else.

Answer 6

i dont think going out to the movies a lot is a crime but i dont think she is being honest either. 17 year olds dont usually go to the movies that much and i think she should start opening up to more. If she wants your trust she should tell you exactly where she is and who she is with. Also, so many teens are being killed in crashes on the road so it is a good idea to know who is driving her around and make sure they are safe

Answer 7

Considering I am an 18 yr old man, my parents tended to be a little more strict on this policy. I was allowed to go to the movies, I just had to give off names and made sure I had a number at which they could contact me at.

Personally, I thought it was a pain for my parents to hassle me like that because for one, I wasn't a trouble maker but now that I think about it, they had a reason to be. I think the logical answer would be it's okay to do it but just make sure she gives you atleast names and a phone number. With that, she should be safe.

Answer 8

Well i don't know ur daughter but i know i just used to tell my mom "can i go" since she always said yes ..and when i had abf and i was tryign to keep it away i never even warned her i was going i would just tell her on my way out...now she is 17 shes not 18 yet....just ask her who is she going with and be curious and ask so why have u been going to the movies do u have bf? and let her know that ITS OKAy to have a bf...i mean it really is...maybe shes scared to tell u...but just be there and its OKAy to ask questions...Or maybe shes just going out like a regular girl..when my friend got her car we were out since friday night until sunday night...so i guess it can be natural.......

~take me as i am~

Answer 9

She is 17 so she will be grown faster than you know it. She is still under your household so you make the rules. If you don't ask then she won't tell. If she doesn't tell you when you ask then that is a sign that there is something going on. If you trust your daughter and she hasn't did anything to make you not trust her then you should be okay.

Answer 10

Different parents have different standards, but i think you should definitely know who she is with. Although she hasn't done anything for you to not trust her, she might use that as a ticket and take advantage of that. You never know if the other people might be alcoholics or drug addicts or something horribly worse...your child is your responsibility and is still suppose to go by your rules if shes still lives under your household!!