Ok I just got marry and I love my husband so much. But I was hurt that on the second week he got a second job. So now I barely see him only to go to sleep. We both work and we are good on our bills his a mechanic so he has to pay this $5,000 tool that he wants to pay off. I know he got the job for a good reason I know he loves me and we talked about it and I told him that I try to understand but it still bothers me and his patient with me but deep down it kills to be home after work by self in our house. Please give me some advise I really need it.
2006-11-24 06:58:51 · 5 answers · asked by nena24 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I'm being selfish and I don't want to be like that that is why I need your help
2006-11-24 07:11:11 · update #1
I was talking to my friend and I realize I wasn't being selfish just was feeling lonely. First I left home to get a place on our own so I got a little home sick and now his working long hours. But his a good man too he buys roses to show that he loves me. But I still can't get that lonely feeling and I need advice on how to get rid of it.
2006-11-27 11:59:37 · update #2
I think you are being selfish. He's not out cheating or drinking with the guys.
Lighten up and stop being so self centered.
Take advantage of the time to learn something new or get a small job of your own. The faster it is paid off the sooner he can go back to working one job.
Volunteer etc, Fill up your time so you don't sit and obsess
2006-11-24 07:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard for you . naturally you want to see him as much as possible. he's takig this job to pay of debts as yousaid and maybe to get a head now for you both get a nice house things like that. did he say how long this second job will be going on for?.. in the meantime is this job or the other mechanic job a place where you can visit him .I mean since you only get to see him rarely late at night before sleeping maybe perhaps try visiting him on his lunch hoour bring him a nice meal and spend the half hour together then on his breaks. i know its not much but it will help not missing him so much. and im sure he would like something prepared fresh by you than him buying from vending machines and eating out every day. would be a nice surprise for him and he'd appreciate it im sure. also gives you some quality time together.
2006-11-24 22:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you get a second job to help pay it. That way he won't have to work as long to pay off the tool and you can both spend more time together in the end. Especially with the holidays' you can work parttime seasonal.
2006-11-24 15:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by catdogpenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you i right. a man has to pay back his debt yes, but lets be hornest he need time with you, you guys are newelywedds, i think you guys should pray about it and talk about it heard i know it is but you have to trust your hear and what you belive.
2006-11-24 16:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a hobbie, he's working for BOTH your futures, be happy!
2006-11-24 15:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋