i have known my wife for practically all of my life, but i have been married to her for 4 years. we have had other relationships before, we both are 24 years old, i know that she had a long relationship with this other guy that she started screwing since she was 15, i have been a man and said nothing to her about that relationship because i "love" her and that wouldnt be right. She recently found out that i had a similar relationship and now i cant get her off my back... she insults me in front of other people, she screams at me for no reason, she tells me that she hates me, and that she is going to stay with me because she wants to make my life a living hell... what i am bumed about, is that whatever we had in our pasts is past, or should i also start bitching at her for screwing that guy for that long before she married me?? i dont know what to do should i just try and play along to save my marriage....
2006-11-24 06:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to her and tell her is she can not get past this...then its over. Do you really want to deal with her insults for another 4 yrs. Maybe go see a marriage counselor and help her get over it_
2006-11-24 06:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that too after my first. At the time, I didn't realize I had postpartum depression. After my second child was born, I learned more about PPD. I ended up with postpartum psychosis, which is rare, potentially deadly and scary as hell. Don't let your wife get there. It is absolute hell. Take her to the doctor and don't let the doctor blow her off! Make sure he or she takes your wife seriously and listens to her. Leave the kids somewhere else when you take her. THis is serious, and it's up to you to help her. She needs counseling and maybe medication. Support her and realize that this is not her fault. You need a break too, dad. Find someone who will babysit for you once or twice a month so you can take your wife out to dinner or a movie. Find a way to go out by yourself and do what you enjoy. Not every day, not all the time, but once a week or so, play some racquetball or pool and relax. You need it. Make sure your wife has the chance to do the same.
2016-05-22 22:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's being a hypocrite. She knows that you know about her past and you being a man about it and letting that be it- the past. But she know now that you've had the same kind of relationship back in the day and she's trying to act pissed off about it. That sound hypocritical. First off she's not respecting you as her husband. Putting you down in front of others is demeaning and lowering a man's ego. Secondly, she's not listening to the vows she took and trying to work out the situation you. Third, why is she tripping over a relationship that you had back then with ol' girl? She should have enough confidence and trust in your marriage to know that she's got you. You may have to go to a marriage counselor, an elder in your church, or another married couple that's experienced in years and talk to them and get to the depth of the problem. Find out what's making her so insecure? What is it about the past relationship that makes it a threat to her? Why the lack of respect towards you?...etc. Then if that doesn't work maybe you and her need space. Abusive speech, downgrading one another, bringing up each others past mistakes and issues, yelling, and throwing insults isn't going to help your marriage and staying and receiving that kind of treatment isn't going to help your self-esteem as a man. Nobody, period, deserves all that. Good luck....
2006-11-24 07:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you need to put quotation marks around the word "love" when you say you love her, my guess would be that you don't.
If she never asked about whether or not you had relationships in the past, she has no reason to complain about finding out now. If she did ask, your honesty about it at that time would be the point of whether or not she has a reason to complain about it now.
2006-11-24 07:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she married you for YOU...our pasts make us who we are now and she HAS to accept that or move on. You can not change your pasts because she doesn't like it...what the heck are you supposed to do about that?...she sounds immature and is using that as an excuse to argue because she's jealous and insecure and wants to blame you.
2006-11-24 07:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She keeps on your relationship is going to be gone. I'd have to tell her look woman its like this, either you get over it, or move on enough of this crap is enough. You are going to resent her bigtime if you don't already if she keeps this up. Good luck to you. I bet you hate going home at night.
2006-11-24 07:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur wife needs to grow up and learn how to be a wife and not a nag
2006-11-24 06:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost old legacy for every american living as he wish in society and unerstanding it as personal freedom so she have old relations as you so no one is excused and the another one is not.
2006-11-24 07:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by lostship 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let this one go.....And move on with your life.......
2006-11-24 07:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋