I told you all that I have 2 kids, work part-time, etc. I am think I am going to use him for once and let him finish paying for my education and then leave him. I am currently finishing up my credentials and I will become a teacher in the next six months. And like I said, I know he's cheating, and yes I love him but I can't leave until I am finished with my credentials. Then, I will have the money, power, and self-esteem to walk away knowing I can support myself and two kids. He may be cheating on me but I'm using him to better myself.
Should I look for someone else while I am still with him so I can throw it back in his face when I do leave him? You know what they say, "Don't get mad, get even"
2006-11-24 06:53:58 · 15 answers · asked by my2luvsJK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't lower yourself to his level...you're better than that. Finish your education as you've planned & then once you leave, you can start fresh with no baggage. Good luck!
2006-11-24 06:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my personal belief that there is no greater revenge than forgiveness. I have played the throw it in the face game and it is not as satisfying as one would hope. I would finish the credentials get a job and leave quietly and when he asked why I would tell him what you know, and then forgive him. Then go out and have a nice life with someone who respects you enough not to cheat.( We are out there trust me)
2006-11-24 15:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a good idea. But a better idea would be to let him go so your kids do not grow up in drama like this and find a good man that will care for you and not cheat on you. Your forgetting about the kids
2006-11-24 14:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just save face and go about getting your education on your own. He's married to you and he's partly responsible for the debt incurred regardless especially if he's responsible for the breakdown of the marriage by cheating.
Move out and get on with your life. Two wrongs don't make it right. It ONLY makes you even. Take the high road and don't give him ammunition to use against you.
2006-11-24 15:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow your roll girl !
Don't forget you have two kids watching you and a full day. Leave the men alone for now and get yourself and your anger together first along with a divorce before sharing your bed with someone else.
I guess if he jumped off a bridge you would too ?
2006-11-24 15:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the saying don't get made get even and I live by this phrase, however you cant place yourself in the predicament to get stuck with this man. Yes, you do deserve better and he deserves to pay. Don't let your children get involved and make sure the next man is the best man for you and your children. Good luck with your career and remember what goes around comes around, he will get what he belongs for hurting you.
2006-11-24 14:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by mommie2morgan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not look for someone else. Get your stuff together so you can be there for your kids and a stronger person. Your not just gonna get over this by finding someone else. So why stoop to his level...just keep doing what your doing and get a lawyer maybe even a PI so you get everything.
2006-11-24 15:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. get what you can out of him. ON the sly look for a guy that will respect you but be sure to let the new guy know what's going on. how old are the kids? just make sure they don't know what going on till you aren't with their father full time. that way they can't squeal. Good luck!
2006-11-24 15:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by catdogpenny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you stay with him,use the **** out of him,put him in so much debt,that will teach him to cheat,leave him with no money to spend on the other women,spend it on you and the kids.
2006-11-24 14:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fool yourself,getting even don't always work out to one's advantage.
2006-11-24 15:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋