For married couples on the verge of divorce what would make you change your mind?

Question

Just wanting to know is it worth divorcing over or can it be fixed and you live happily ever after? Everything in my marriage is fine so far there are still those days where me and my husband have our spats but were not on the brink of divorce he is stuck with me unless he cheats on me. I hope I never have to go through a divorce and for those of you who are I hope things get better and you find happiness and not be in misery . Just want to know I am curious just to see what a spouse has done to make you want to get a divorce answer only if you want.

Answer 1

if he really show he sorry and want never do it again

Answer 2

Although I am not yet married, I am engaged and have a two month old son, so I am taking a shot at this.

Every marriage has its share of domestic spats because no matter how much you have in common, there will always exist some difference in opinion.

I am a person who believes that marriage is supposed to be ever after, even though it may not always be happily. To be pushed to the brink of divorce will take a lot. I believed if my bf was unfaithful I would have left. Last week (2 days b4 my bday) I found out my bf was found with another man's (his employee) wife.

I flipped!!!! But after all was said and done I am still with him. He said he just gave her a lift. I may never know the truth but sometimes even though you are hurt, etc. your decisions are influenced by other factors. Granted this was the first time I was in such a situation and if it ever happens again, i am gone- no question asked!!!!!!

However, if I was on the verge of a divorce, what he would have to do would depend on what **** started it in the first place.

At this point in my life alot of financial compensation may work, as well as a lot of making up with romantic getaways, etc.

Answer 3

On The Verge Of Divorce

Answer 4

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For married couples on the verge of divorce what would make you change your mind?
Just wanting to know is it worth divorcing over or can it be fixed and you live happily ever after? Everything in my marriage is fine so far there are still those days where me and my husband have our spats but were not on the brink of divorce he is stuck with me unless he cheats on me. I hope I...

Answer 5

"once you file a joint return, you cannot change to Married Filing Separately" - IRS Pub 17 page 23, and other places. well, even with divorce (maybe) pending, you went beyond his wishes and put money down on a car. {I realize you made the money, and you no doubt needed a car, but as "married" you two have to work as a team. He CANNOT have filed taxes with his girlfriend, or claim her child (unless it is also his, but I think he would still fail on the support test). That would be fraud. He is legally married to you. If it turns out he does have a W-2, the IRS will come knocking, and want an amended return and more tax $, PLUS interest and penalties. Paying what he asked for sounds like a cheap price for your freedom, if you two cannot make your marriage work. You did at least get $2,000 credit over and above your tax situation that you did not earn because of the Child Tax Credit, so just consider that money his part of the return*, and pay him, and get the divorce papers signed. * assuming he was bluffing about the unreported income and you will not be hit up with extra taxes and penalties in the future. Good luck.

Answer 6

My wife handled paying the bills when I worked up to 80 or 90 hours a week. This would usually happen about 4 months a year. Anyways, she hid money from me, didn't pay bills, let gasoline credit card raise up to alot of money etc;. I questioned what was going on and she would get furious. Then I find out she has a credit card I didn't know about etc;. Anyways, I tried reasoning with her, but I ended up leaving her because of the lieing. Don't know if she ever cheated, don't think she did, but I can't handle not being truthful.

Answer 7

I went through a divorce, and it was the best thing I could have ever done....I'm remarried, and he's been with the same woman for 5 years........we all get along great, we don't have any custody issues with our kids, and we're all better off because of the divorce....it doesn't have to be a bad thing!

Answer 8

At this point, nothing would make me change my mind. However, since we have been married 12 years and on the brink of divorce a couple of times before, it is clear that I changed my mind before. I guess I wanted to believe his promises in the past...I wanted to look for the good in him...I wanted to help him with his problems - not turn my back on him. I really think that before, I looked at divorce as "giving up," and anyone who knows me would tell you that I am not a quitter. When I took my vows, I fully intended and believed that I would be with him "...as long as we both shall live. For better or worse."

However, with the escalation of violence in our relationship, and my growing fear of him hurting our children or me in one of his rages, I finally found the strength to see my walking away as a new beginning of the life I wanted my children and I to have - not as though I was quitting.

Answer 9

I've found that if you open up your life to others, you can make a difference in someone's life. With that thought, I open up my life, so that maybe I can help someone else...

About 12 years ago, my husband wanted a divorce. He'd found someone else, who he thought was a better replacement. I do NOT believe in divorce..only murder! That's actually an old family saying. Anyway, I wanted to work it out. He didn't. I got him to go to one counseling session, but his mind was already made up. He moved out, and into an apartment. I was broken-hearted. Then I heard that "she" wanted to get custody of our kids, so that she could get more welfare (her and her kid were on Social Security disability). So, reluctantly, I filed for divorce, so that I could retain custody. I got some books on divorce. One especially good book was called Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson. It taught me a lot about not settling for second best, and that I deserved to be treated better than I had been. But, it also dug deep into my own thoughts. I came to realize that I had done some things to do damage to our marriage. I took responsibility for that. When my husband came to visit the kids, I made sure his visit was as wonderful as possible, even though every inch of me wanted otherwise. I used those visits to show him that I COULD change, and WAS changing. He noticed. After about 6 weeks, I decided I was going to withdraw the divorce papers. I realized that I was making it too easy for him to end our marriage, so if he wanted it, he'd have to pay for it himself. Well, all the changes that I had done made an impression on him. I realized what the problem was, between us. It had nothing to do with the woman being better than me. She gave him what I hadn't been, and that was attention. You see, I was working 10 hours a day, then came home, made supper, then left for one of many committee meetings. I made the meetings more important than my marriage, and even more than my family. So, I cut it all out. I put us all on a schedule, so that everything got done around the house. So, when he came to visit the kids, everything was better, and was what he needed from me. Once I learned that, it wasn't hard to do at all, because I love that man. Yes, he cheated on me. But, he asked me to forgive him. He told me he was sorry, and wanted a life with me and the kids. I told him what he'd have to do before he came back, since I had done my part. He agreed to no longer having anything to do with "her", and moved back in. It took a few years for me to completely believe that he was home to stay, as I had to work through the trust that he had broken. But, because we wanted it to work, it did. We both did the hard work of realizing that we had married imperfect people in an imperfect world. Even though he cheated, I could forgive him. Why? Because I am a Christian, and that's what the Bible says I am to do when someone asks. And that's a big part of how we worked through our issues, was having God be a part of our love triangle. When He's at the center of your life, there's no room for anything or anyone else to get in the way of your marriage. Through prayer, He made me realize what I had to work on, and to be ready to forgive. If I had listened to my friends, I'd be divorced now. Instead, I listened to God. It was much better advice. And now we've been married for over 29 years, stronger than ever. <*)))><

Answer 10

nothing would have ever made me leave my mate, except for the one thing he did, cheat on me. i could have put up with anything, and did, but i could not deal with his cheating.it still hurts a little bit when i think of it, but it is nothing like it was when it first begun, and i started divorce proceeding's.