Is it best to have children when you are younger or older. Even though you are older and more mature and wise.

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Is it best to have children when you are younger or older. Even though you are older and more mature and wise. When you are younger you are able to be there for your child. Also, you'll be able to do more things with your child. But if i were to wait until say...35. When my child hits their teen years (13) I am already 48. And I grew up with old parents so I know that you may not always want to disclose your parents actual ages because as humans we may have the tendacy to be embarrassed.

Answer 1

I think its better to have them younger... how else are you going to learn from your mistakes, and give your children advise on the grand kids, lol...

Answer 2

Listen, every one dies in the end (sorry to put it so bluntly). My mum tried to get pregnant for years, and then when she had me (14, only child) at 35, I was born 14 weeks early, at 5 and a half months. In 1992 there was a huge risk I'd die, and if I didn't, I'd end up mentally disabled with brain damage or cerebral palsy. Fortunately... I didn't. :)

I feel no shame in disclosing my parent's ages (mother 48, father 60, both nearly a year older) They have both remained young at heart, my father more so, though my mum is very protective. I live with my dad - parents split when I was 2 and divorced when I was 4, but I moved to live with dad this year - and he fools everyone when he say's he's 50. I just feel incredibly lucky to be alive in the first place, and the fact I have parents that love me and want the best for me.

Personally, having older parents is a blessing for me. They are able to share all their stories and experiences of travels. My dad never tries to shelter me from anything and we have an open relationship, which for both of us, is great!

So really, don't worry about how old your children will be and how old you'll be etc etc. I don't think it's better to have children younger or older; whenever you feel the time is right is "best". Some people decide against having children completely. But if you feel the time is truly right, and that you won't have any regrets, age shouldn't matter.

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DISCLAIMER: In no way am I trying to condone teenage pregnancy or underage sex. This is just my opinion.

Answer 3

In my opinion it is best to wait until you've got stability. You don't want to bring a child into the world and still be living with your parents and without a job. Once you've got a stable job and can afford a child then go for it.

My mother had me when she was 20. She had no job, car, house and then she ended up having my brother a year and a half after me. My father left us and we had to live with my grandparents. I'm currently 18 and my mother is 38. Try not to think so much about how old you'll be when you have a teenager. You can't predict at what point in your life you'll have children, that's not how it works.

If you're a female you might set a goal, as strange as that may be. At a certain age women are unable to concieve children. Then again there's 50 year old women having children. -_-'

Answer 4

I had my first child when I was 18(I was married at 17 and conceived one month afterwards). I am now 21 and expecting my second child with the same man. I could not be any happier with my life at this point. I still plan on going to college, and starting a career when the kids are in school. I also started my own home business and am doing fairly well with that. My son enjoys me being with him all day, especially since his father is active duty army and not able to see him all year round. I think being a young parent is great because I am still physically able to have fun with my child, take him to the park, beach, library, etc. without getting tired. Whereas, I remember my father(who is 62 now) was quite older than I was as a kid and a lot more set in his ways and tired easily. Although, I still love him the same. I think it depends on the individual and what they have planned for their life. However, if your plans don't work out as you wanted them too(as they usually never do), don't fret. We can learn a lot from the eyes of a child--children are definitely a blessing, so don't wait too long.

Answer 5

Unlike a man whose sperm reproduces everytime he ejaculates, women have their all of their eggs from the time they hit puberty.

After the age of 30 your chances of having a child with Downs Syndrome or some other retardation increases by 50% each year. ADD is also common with children whose mothers have them older.

Personally, I think it is selfish to wait too long and risk bringing a child in to the world with all of these health problems. There is a point where a women has to put the health of the child in front of their own desire to be a parent. There are plenty of healthy babies waiting to be adopted.

In my experience, older mother's are have less energy and paitence for younger children - although they may be more financially stable.

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/270

Here is a link with some more info.

Answer 6

Having children when you're in your middle to late 20's or early 30's is the best. You are more mature and can still have fun with them. Waiting until you're older can bring about many issues for a child; developmental issues and the embarrasement factor.
I watch 7th Heaven a lot and a while back the twin boys kept telling their teacher that the man taking them to school everyday was their grand father - not their father. It appears you grew up with older parents - so you know how it feels.
Right now I spend a lot of time with my grand daughters. There's a lot I'd like to do with them but I just can't do the same things, anymore, as I did with their father (my oldest son). I realize this and now I do what I can and build tons of memories for them.

Answer 7

I had my girls at 24 and 26. I think it's better to have kids early. People get stuck in a routine of working, socializing, etc. that it is a big shock when they have kids. Plus, this way when I'm 5o, I can travel when I am more financially sound and still be able to get around without a walker!

A family friend just started to have kids when she was 35. She now has 4 kids under the age of 5. I think she's crazy, but anyways. But I was just thinking she's going to be 58 when her youngest finally goes to college. At that age, I'll probably have grandkids myself. Wow.

Answer 8

there is never the perfect time to have children. I had my Son at 25, and its been wonderful. It would be nice if we were more established, but more and more people of my generation can't wait until we have a house or a stable career, because those things are becoming out of reach. We are now working on baby #2, and I will be in my 30's when I have him or her. It will probably be different, but still great.

Answer 9

I had my children when I was 19 and 22. I have plenty of energy to keep up with them and do things with them. I did not want to be and old parent like many of my friends had. They were always to tired to do anything with them. As far as being wiser---well I dont believe age will really matter. You can make just as silly of mistakes when you're 40 as you can when you are 20. Its really up to you when you think you are ready for children.

Answer 10

If you have a decent job and save money and have children when you are a little older you can spend more time with them because you don't have to worry about the money as much.