I've been married to my husband for 2 yrs now. He has always been so respectful of me , top notch father, and a wonderful provider. Last night though he spanked me!!! He works and I stay at home with our daughter so he makes the money but its my responsibility to write out the checks and pay the bills. (With the money he makes and puts in our joint bank account). He had reminded me over and over again to pay the electric bill but......I still forgot and the electric got turned off. He had to leave work early to try to get it turned back on and pay the fees, but it still took till the next day to get it flipped back on. Anyways though we he finally got home that day after dealing with that he took me to our room in private and spanked me!!! (nothing to horrible, but yikes it stung!!!) Don't know whether I should just let it go and remeber to pay the electric bill next time (He really is a great husband, father, and provider) or whether I should leave him.
2006-11-24 06:04:38 · 45 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No just dont forget to pay the bill ..because a spanking is what you got waiting for you.
2006-11-24 06:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 4⤋
Some women get a thrill from being spanked by their husband or boyfriend. There's a whole subculture devoted to this mild form of S&M, including such literature as John Norman's GOR series and the KUSHIEL'S LEGACY trilogy by Jacqueline Carey. On the other hand, the consensus of people who belong to that culture are nearly unanimous in their opinion that the spankee should desire to be spanked. It's not quite a punishment when they do it.
If you didn't like the spanking, I suppose that you could either leave your husband or try to get him into some legal trouble. However, either choice seems to involve a lot of trouble for you and your children.
It's not so easy (or so I hear) for a woman to get a man who's a good husband (that means sex, yes?) father and provider, so if you leave this one you might not get another man as good ever again. Also, is your distaste for spankings so strong that you'll force your children to spend their remaining junior years in a divided family?
The money that you and he would end up paying to lawyers will not, of course, be available for spending on raising your children.
And if you get him sent to jail, he'll probably lose his job and, having acquired a reputation as a "wife beater" might not be able to find a new job as good as the one he lost. Your family would become poorer as the result.
2006-11-24 06:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 07:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on most women would probably get some sexual release from this behavior. I bet if you didn't you will remember to pay the bill if he had reminded you numereous times and you just let it lapse then a couple of swats well I would just laugh it off and thats that don't leave over something that was actually your fault it happened. Think of this as well he did it in private and he most likely cant be the first time he slapped your *** this time it was a little harder LOL.
2006-11-24 06:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm, that's a little wierd. No, that's a LOT wierd. If the spanking wasn't during a sexual episode, then it was inappropriate (unless he was kidding). Spanking you implied that he sees you as someone he feels he needs to "correct" or to "punish", as you would a child.
This implies a lack of respect for you. It's okay that you forgot.
You need to make his sorry @ss sleep in the garage and tell him that if he wants to spank you again, he only does so when YOU want him to.
You made a mistake, you're human. Tell him the next time he doesn't put the seat down after taking a pee that you're gonna cut his penis off. That'll make him think twice about spanking you.
And I'm sorry, unless he was kidding...he's not a great husband.
2006-11-24 06:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should follow your heart hon but spanking is physical violence and it is not right and it is illegal. Your husband either needs to be educated on those facts or needs anger management counseling to come to grips with his emotions or both.
Violence is wrong and one cannot rationalize that it is somehow ok.
If he has issues understanding that then I'm sure there is a judge that would be more than happy to explain it to him...even if it takes 6 months to 2 years in jail.
Better for him to learn it from a counselor than a judge, but that is his choice.
It might be a good idea for you to talk to a counselor as well since obviously this has been a very traumatic experience for you and you need to take care of yourself first.
Good luck
2006-11-24 06:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ricki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of the spanking as a starter to worst to come. It might stop with the spanking and never happen again, or it might develop into a full blown punch up. Read the signs. Not saying to leave him, nor am I saying to stay with him BUT, please read the signs and also express how you felt about the incident to him. Good luck.
2006-11-24 06:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by blackpus88 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?!? That sounds very strange, but not abusive so I wouldn't be worried about it. You should hawever ask him if that is a fetish to him and if he was turned on when he did that. You never know it just might improve your relationship. If you didn't like it just tell him you kind of felt like you were being abused and to approach a situation like that differently next time. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-11-24 06:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him, tell him you don't appreciate what he did, and that he shouldn't do it again, the key to any healthy relationship is communication, if he does it again after you talk to him, then I would personally leave him, but that's just me, ultimately it comes down to your preferences and whether or not you can tolerate that kind of behaviour
2006-11-24 06:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ace A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank God someone did- you deserved it (and probably loved every second of it) just to leave your poor kids without heat and hot water and food for your own stupid selfishness. If you want to hear how people react to domestic spanking within a consentual adult relationship, then post a question about that, not a stupid question where there are kids involved, you perverted freak.
2006-11-24 12:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by kim914 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't think twice LEAVE! While you are leaving swear out a complaint against him for abuse!! Once the abuse has started, it will get worse. First it's the Electric Bill you forgot to pay, than it's his shirt you didn't fold properly!!
2006-11-24 06:09:46 · answer #11 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋