THE WIFE OF THE BRAIN DAMAGE SPOUSE? OR HIS FAMILY.?..now why do churches FORCE you to stay with someone...whom you do not KNOW ANYMORE...and requires a lot of care???? i do not get that????i would feel it would be ok to get an annulment if one party becomes severely brain damaged???the LAW ALLOWS IT BUT WHAT ABOUT CHURCHES.??? WHY should you have to stay when it would NOT BE GOOD FOR YOU OR THE CHILDREN ...I WOULD THINK IT WOULD CAUSE RESENTMENT, amongths other things...he is NOT NORMAL...NOT EVEN A HUSBAND...IF i was like that i would expect to be put in a HOME...TO NOT DESTROY OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES>>>>tell me your take on that???
2006-11-24 06:01:39 · 18 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to do what is best for you and your children cause that is so not cool following some church's law . Would the church tell you to stay if you were going to be homeless and hungry and how would the children fair . Not well I would think. Like i said you do what you think is best for you and your children. No one would fault you for that if they do then they are an idiot and dont listen to them. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-24 06:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too sure about this one because I had a 'brain injury'. It seems to me that if no one had the time to care and help that I may not be where I am today. I'm not too sure if force is the right word to use. I'd have to say it is a very strong suggestion to stay with this person because the vows clearly state to love honour and cherish 'til death do us part. It all depends also on how much damage is sustained and through time what may be able to be helped through therapy and other forms of help. Never give up because I might not be where I am today if people had given up on me.
2006-11-24 06:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by mikeatola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you think it would hurt the children to see one parent abandon the other bc it was "too hard". You can put someone in a home and still be married to them. The vows were for "better or worse" not "for better or until I lose interest"
If the law lets you get an annulment, fine, but don't expect to get married in the church again.
2006-11-24 06:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by ledzep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell?? Did you not marry this person??? Church or no church--you can get on with life and make your own choices. The question is--can you live with yourself?? Maybe he is not even a husband to you--but I bet at one time he was. Would he do this to you??? I know you feeling resenment now---it is not his fault. Make the decision that is right for you my dear afterall, it is you who matters. I believe if you do not take care of yourself--no one else will.
2006-11-24 06:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're an insensitive *****! That is your husband you're talking about. The father of your children. You married him with vows of "'til death do us part." I understand that this is pretty close to death, but maybe it's the way you're acting or the vibe you're sending out to his family. I think you are creating more hurt for the family by acting this way and wanting an anulment. Show some respect for the people that loved him before you did!
2006-11-24 06:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by babe_in_the_country 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put the health, well being, & safety of your children 1st, above all others, including your husband, & especially the church.
Christian churches have a long established history of poor judgement where children are concerned (I was raised Christian).
2006-11-24 06:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be a very difficult situation, but from your post I think you have already divorced him in your heart. You might ask yourself, if the situation were reversed, would you want him to abandon you as though you were already dead and carry on with his life. And if he happens to "wake up" in 10 years, are you going to be able to face him with the fact that you left him. I pray that I am never in this situation, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone else, but the way a person handles a situation like this would speak volumes about their character.
2006-11-24 06:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously u had a religious marriage (church)..so I suppose ur vow was "for better or for worse"...if u didn't mean that then(& it's clear now that u didn't)..u shouldn't have promised it....what kind of society are we becoming really?!
2006-11-24 06:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be catholic. Baptists don't have such laws. If you want a divorce, then you should get one because you're living a lie to stay married when you are so unhappy.
2006-11-24 08:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What "the church" wants? Is that how you run your life? Do what YOU know is the right thing to do. Whatever it is, God won't mind. Check out "Conversatons with God Vol. 1" by Neile Donald Walsch -- Not what your usual "god" book.
2006-11-24 06:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by Clycs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋