I am transsexual (MtF - male to female) and tells me all the time that he thinks I'm stupid because I don't seem to know what my penis is for- of course I know what it's for- for turning into a uasble vagina, not a useless appendage like it is now.
He is also condescending, arrogant, and very cocky. If I were a violent person, I would have hurt him severely a long time ago.
He is 23 and seems to be somewhat insecure around me. I seem to threaten his masculinity somehow and he overcompensates by being so abusive to me. Is it just insecurity and immaturity on his part?
He seems to want to compete with me for everything, but I don't want to compete with him- I simply want to live my life as I see fit, and he simply doesn't get it.
It's funny, anytime I mention that I got something or did something, HE did it ten times better, or has a better something than I have.
How can I get it through to him that it's OK to not have to outdo everybody else, or is this a maturity issue?
2006-11-24 05:58:13 · 13 answers · asked by mageapprentice 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
.. your brother is confused about you.
He doesn't fully accept you being transsexual.
He is some what insecure around you because of this.
Your brother is trying to compensate your sex. by acting like he is the better person.
He is immature yet.
he has an ego attitude ...that is his own doing. nothing against you.
2006-11-24 06:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like little brother's got a touch of the green eyed monster, now although i pulled this stunt off it wasn't a family member, it was a supposed friend. I too got all the same crap from this person as you are from your bro. i know this sounds bad but it worked. one day i'd had enough of it my way of dealing with it was i let the man i was back to play. I grabbed the **** by the throat threw him against the wall and explained very clearly to back off or a pair of panda eyes are on their way. Not nice i know, i still feel bad about it, but fact is the crap stopped and the truth came out. He was jealous cos i was doing better than him at life and that just wasn't possible for a transsexual to achieve. Or so he thought.
2006-11-24 06:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by poodle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I simply want to live my life as I see fit."
To borrow the Nike slogan, just do it.
Tell your brother that you've chosen a particular lifestyle and that he can go choose his. Beyond that, he should respect your decisions as long as they aren't blatanly illegal or immoral (and I don't view your decisions as either). He can live his life as a competition if he likes but tell him there aren't always "winners and losers" with things and that he's missing out on so much (and alienating people) if he always has to "win."
He assuredly won't be very accepting initially but with time, maybe he'll see the error of his ways.
2006-11-24 06:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Target Acquired 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy a bunch of Middle Eastern newspapers, use his computer to look up radical websites, put a picture of Osama in his closet, call the Homeland Security folks and turn him in as a terrorist. That will keep him busy for awhile.
2006-11-24 07:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh ya i propose seriousely u see this sign that asserts dont push nicely i for you are able to still choose for to no if this button can rain down ostriches or sumthing wouldnt u? or perhaps thats only me being weird and wonderful the two way!!!! i be attentive to that im tempted
2016-11-26 20:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he acts this way towards you because he doesn't know how to respond to you because of your new sex. Most boys do fight with their sisters, I guess you would be his sister. But, brothers are very competitive.
2006-11-24 06:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Thats the best way to get your feelings out.
2006-11-24 06:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~Romantic_Dreamer~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to handle this situation is yell at him and tell him that he is being a jerk. tell him that you wish you had another brother. then he will stop bothering you. he will probably stop coming around. k.
2006-11-24 06:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's jealous. Just slap him up-side his head a few times!
2006-11-24 06:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ignore him...but be nice to him....dont let him know he pushed any of your buttons.....sounds like he is going through some of the same things you have gone through.......
2006-11-24 06:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by zee zee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋