To those who married young, any regrets?

Question

Young is under 24. Many people do get married at a very young age, some even at 19 or 20. I read someone's question on this site and she married at 22 but is now very unhappy. I feel so sorry for her. But then I know a couple who is 24 years old and they had their first child recently. And they are smiling like children on Christmas morning. I am 23 but wants to marry when at least 28 years. I cannot see myself married for years to come! So, to those of you who were wed early, do you regret it?

Answer 1

I got in a marital sitiation at seventeen years old.I am now 25.I now have two children.I sometimes do regret starting out so young.Only because their were things in life that i didn't yet get to accomplish.I call them "self accomplishments"I am very greatful though that i have my son's.They are the world to me.I do believe that things happen for a reason.I still plan on working on my dreams and goals.Marriage is a lot of responsibility.No matter how old you are.You can get married at 30 and still regret it.Or you can wait and regret not getting married young.It all depends on the person.I believe that as long as a person accomplishes their goals and is truly happy with themselves they can live in a marrage happy.I realize that i don't regret being married,i only regret not preserving my youth.Being young is a preacious thing and once its past you can't go back.

Answer 2

Absolutely NO regrets... I married at age 18... he was 25. HOWEVER... I know of only 1 other couple who got married right out of high school and are still together. It is not common !! The statistics are high for divorce under 24.

People are still growing and changing well into their 20's. I do not recommend ANYone getting married till 25. Yes It worked for me but I am not your average person. I was mature beyond imagination at age 12 already, perhaps that had something to do with it.

There are people out there who are happily married even after 22 years of marriage !! Do not be fooled by many unhappy, selfish people that found no joy in it! Life is what YOU make it!

Answer 3

no, i don't regret having married young although we are divorced now since may!! i learned so much during our whole marriage and it has moulded me to what i am today, also have a great son on top of it all who is eight and i'll be 30 in january. get on great with his dad now..
doesn't always have to be that way, age doesn't necessarily come into it, sometimes people meet at the wrong time, or outside forces put strains on the relationship like sickness, family or another woman!!! he was 10years older than me at the time (30) and stillran away with a 22 year old after the fact (at 37) so age isn't always the factor, it's the character...
when both marry young they can grow out of each other as they grow older or feel they've missed out on something (1st and only partner syndrome!)...
a realtionship is for life and not just for christmas, it's much easioer to walk away from relationships these days without fighting, it's not taboo anymore..people don't work as hard as they used to (of course there are exceptions to the rules, god knows we worked at it) and move on to bigger and better things.. i really don't think we can say it's an age thing... and as i said although i'm divorced now... i still don't regret having married and having shared some really great years with a great person..
rather have it that way, then not have met him, not have had my son, and not have learned so much..i appreciate things and life and love in a very different way now!

Answer 4

I married my husband at 17and he was 18.we started dating when i was 15 and he was 16....... I got preggo at 19 and had our first child at 20 and he was 21..... we have been together going on 7 years.... and there has been hard times and good times but when there is work coming from both sides anything is possible.... i do not regret marrying him at 17 and if I had to do it all over again I would........ Just some people are ready earlier then others and some people change with time and age they grow apart from the one they once loved..

Answer 5

I was 18 he was 23, we have been married 34 years.......have 4 children.....we met on a blind date on the day I left school.......no regrets, but we don't have a lot in common these days, but can't say thats because we married young, the thing now is I am a young 52 and he is an old 57 .......and we live more like brother and sister than husband and wife.

Answer 6

I was married at 20 & had 1st child at 21. I do wish I would have waited a few more yrs. Not sure how much longer, but I met my husband only a year out of high school & then within another year we were married. I think I was too young, not mature at the time. Had I waited maybe it would have been different. However everyone needs to do what they think is right & best for them.

Answer 7

I married at 18 and I married a man who did drugs and drank way too much... i love my son that I had with him but yes I regretted marrying him and I am getting remarried in 2008 to a 29 yeard old sweetheart... doesn't do drugs rarely drinks and DOES NOT hit women.... I love him to death. I will be 24 i 2008 I divorced my ex husband at 21

Answer 8

I married when I was 24 and have no regrets if you have regrets of getting married then you were not ready for the commitment
and not sure about the person you married. If you have found the right person and have come to grips with commiting yourself to one person for life then you should be fine remember marriage isn't for everyone but in my case it's awesome.

Answer 9

I married when I was 24 and I have a child now. I think when you know you married the right person, there is no regrets.

Answer 10

I got married at 25 and again at 41 and I have regrets about both at times. You don't have to be young to make an error in marrying.