I am a married women of 30 years old. I have one child of two years old. Mine was a love marriage.?

Question

I have been married for 4 years. My problem is my huband misbehaved with my niece who is just 7 years old. I left my husband and now with my parents for the last 8 months. Now i dont want to live with him and he is asking pardon and want to live with me but i dont trust him anymore. Now he and his family are very much trying to take my son. They want to spend time with him 2-3 days in a month which i dont want since i dont have a plan to live with him. My question is am i doing right not to allow my son to their place? secondly, now my husband is asking pardon but i dont trust him, should i need to forgive and live with him? I could not resist his behaviour with my niece since she was brought up in my arms. I told him that i dont want to continue our relationship but he is not going away from my life. what should I do? Please advice.

Answer 1

Your husband needs help. He is a child predator, and his behavior will pass on to your son. It is your duty as a parent to protect your child...at any sane cost.

Answer 2

I think you are using this rather mild word "misbehaved" because you are still trying to remain in denial about what your husband needs to be called... and that's what he is.. a Pedophile.
Look, this isn't about you and your husband's relationship any more. It's about your absolute obligation and responsibility to protect your own innocent, dependent child from the hands of - not a "misbehaver" but a Predator. The fact that predator happens to be the man you married, is unfortunate, but it IS the issue. Surely you have to know by now, from all the reports on television, and all the documentaries and written material, and vast amount of information out there, the kind of mental and emotional damage that is inflicted upon a child - not just for a few weeks or months, but permanently, for the rest of that child's life. Knowing what you know, do you want to have the responsibility for that on your head?
You do NOT want to release your child into the custody of this man, or his family, just like that. You DO need to contact the proper authorities and tell them what you know. You don't really explain how you have come to know that your 7 year old niece was sexually molested but if you have genuine knowledge or legitimate information in your possession, you should talk to the police, and let them guide you through the proper process
One thing you have to keep in mind is your husband's possible motive for wanting you to "kiss and make up" Assuming that you have real evidence of his "misbehaviour", he has to be well aware that you have the ability to put in motion the wheels of a serious investigation, and he has a lot to lose from that . He may feel that you would be a lot more reluctant to go that route if you came back to him. Somewhere on down the road, if he ended up having to defend himself in court, his lawyer would make a big issue of the fact that you went back to him....."Ladies and gentlemen of the jury.. could you honestly believe that any mother of a young child, believing her husband " was guilty of child molestation, would actually go back and live with him, and put her child at risk? Think about it.

Answer 3

You need to file for divorce and seek sole custody of your son. The court will determine if he and his family deserve visitation and what kind. If they allow your husband visitation, surely it will be supervised, and if he will not leave you alone and is harassing you then then seek a restraining order. You should also consider counseling for yourself.

If he has misbehaved with his niece, who is to say he hasn't misbehaved with your son? Maybe you should take him to the doctor to be examined.

Answer 4

The thing is he will never be out of your life because you have a child together. No you should not go back with him it takes a sick individual to do something with a seven year old. Your child need to see his family but if you feel unsafe about it only give them supervised visitations

Answer 5

First get a restraining order against him so he can;t come around you or your son.......... File for divorce and sole custody.... Your husband and his parents can not take custody from you unless you are prov en unfit and sounds like you are a great mother and he is the loser....... No judge will grant unsupervised visitation with a pedophile..... but there should be no problem with you getting sole custody and No you are not wrong but very Right...

Answer 6

I'm sorry. What exactly do you mean by misbehaved? If he was inappropriate with a child I don't see how a judge will allow him to take your son. I would suggest for you to speak to an attorney.

Answer 7

Too lengthy with out paragraph breaks between make interpreting all of it too confusing. Set professional boundries. no longer reliable to bypass the line with a boss. even as the affair ends so does your interest. everyone who's married has to basic techniques to implement their boundries with others. in case you do not comprehend how, search for help. study up or get a counselor.

Answer 8

First of all, your husband should be reported to the authorities, if what you are describing is sexual abuse. If that is the case than the court would not allow your husband to be with your child.
If you have done nothing wrong as far as your baby, and your marriage are concerned than you have nothing to fear from his family.

Answer 9

Get a lawyer and get custody settled. You may want to ask for supervised wisits. You dont say if your child is male or female but either way dont let them have her/him until the legal matter of custody is settled.

Answer 10

Nah

Do not allow him

Let your son go with him but explain your son the tru character...