2006-11-24 05:46:47 · 19 answers · asked by Trisha S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TELL THEM TO F.U.C.K. OFF AND YOU STICK UP FOR UR SELF...
2006-11-24 05:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, I've been in a similar situation for years. The hurt of such betrayal can run deep.You will need to stand up for yourself. Respectfully, but firmly, let them know when you are offended by something they say or do. If that is not possible, try to write it down, that can be very helpful too. It is most important that you decide what your boundaries are, and not let anyone violate them. They may have issues about losing him, or whatever, but no one has a right to hurt another. And if your marriage is not the number 1 priority in both your lives, it will be a constant struggle to keep it intact. Best wishes.
2006-11-24 06:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by techiewannabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked why he doesn't stick up for you??? I would suggest you talk to him about it. My husband always sticks up for me partly because he knows I'm too shy and won't stick up for myself but mostly because he doesn't want to see anybody put down the woman he loves.... I think your husband should be a little more like that. Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel.
Hope something gets resolved...Good luck.
2006-11-24 05:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same boat as you. He's a coward and has no back bone. I think thats terrible when either couple lets the other take the fall and the other one is to weak to stand up for the other.
I doubt he will change too. instead he will give you the old your being to sensitive, or thats just how my mother is with everyone just ignore her.
If they don't live with you ( as his parents and his younger brother did) youcan tell your husband as long as he doesn't do anything you shall not be going over to his mother for visits. as your not going to stand there and take her crap. its better this way than saying how you feel. I had to bite my lip many times cause im not one to just sit there. but I did'nt want my husband at the time to be hurt for me chewing his mother out. I'd have her for dinner. aand there would have had a bigger fight. so best for you to stay away from her. if he says no i want you to come. then you tell him your going to stand up for yourself and speak up to her next time she trys anything. he's been foreworned
2006-11-24 15:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be available to hear this stuff. Quit going to gatherings and when he talks about it and your getting upset just change the subject.....So how was your day?...he if he cares after a while of this will ask you what's up....then tell him...I'm worth more than your family or you care to realize and if I am not being respected then I will not put myself in a situation where I will not be. PERIOD...love it or leave it.
They are being immature and jealous of you, you deserve more than that!
2006-11-24 06:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stay away from them. Or speak up for yourself in a nice way and tell them to quick picking on you it makes you feel uncomfortable. Men are butholes, the next time your are going to be around his family you can also tell him your not going because you don't feel hes by your side when he should be and it makes you feel like whatever. I know i've been there. But I would speak up for myself and piss them all off.
2006-11-24 05:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Diamondbch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE:s Not much of a husband, He is supose to defend you at all times. Anybody that sayes things bad to you or about you then your husband is supose to defend you.I wouldnt let anybody say bad things to my wife or talk about her. Even her own family. I would defend her all the way. Your husband is a coward, to let this go on and not say anything in your defence.
2006-11-24 05:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you tell his family to bring it on why do you need your husband to stick up for you
2006-11-24 05:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your husband is more married to his family than YOU!!! If you have done nothing to deserve their VERBAL ABUSE, than I would give your husband an ultimatum. IT'S EITHER YOU, OR HIS FAMILY!!
2006-11-24 05:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him why he doesn't stick up for you. Maybe he feels that you are strong enough to do it for yourself. You are his first priority. He lives with you--not them--he really needs to listen to what they are saying to you and let them know that it hurts your feelings and you are his wife and that it really to stop.
2006-11-24 05:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid to be cut out of the will. Shut up and wait for the money
2006-11-24 05:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Harold Hobbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋