What do I do now?

Question

My husband, well now ex, just left me and I'm devastated. I don't know what to do now. I have NOTHING. No money, no car, I live with my freaking parents. I tried killing myself twice, and now I am just hopeless.

What do I do? How can I get on with my life? I can't afford school, and you can't make a living working for $7.25 an hour as a cashier.

Someone please help.

Answer 1

First of all you have to realize that you will be depressed most of your life if you depend on others for your own happiness. Don't expect a man in your life to make you happy. (Believe me, I know all about this, since I just went through my THIRD divorce) This probably sounds crazy but since you can't afford to go back to school you're actually in pretty good shape. You can get scholarships and grants, and go for free. If you know what career you'd be interested in, go to the local college and apply for the grants. You'll be fine, just remember, YOU are responsible for your own happiness, not a man, not your family, YOU ARE. Good Luck.

Answer 2

First of all go after him for alimony secondly get some help
with other problems because attempted suicide is not a good thing to be thinking about. If your husband left you just say good ridence because really if he left he really didn't love you in the first place. This is an opportunity to recharge or life stay with your parents for a bit get some idea what you want to do then go for it
maybe look at a student loan go back to school. Try to find 2 jobs that way you'll be working so much you won't have much time to spend at the parents. You deserve a guy who isn't a selfish prick and I feel you will find that person remember this love finds us when we are not looking for it trust me its true thats how my wife
and I met each other we both got yanked out by work mates and well that was almost 9 years ago now we just had our 7th Anniversary. God Bless and Good Luck life does get better sometimes you just have to work a little harder.

Answer 3

You are not alone. Many, many people go through this. If we all killed ourselves there'd be very few people on this planet. It's a tiny bump in the road.. you may suffer a little but think about this: the great thing that may be waiting around the corner for you would not be possible if you weren't here to greet it. I thank God for all the misery I've been through in the past only to get to where I am now and it was all life's little surprises that got me here. Best thing you can do: Get out there! Put a fake smile on your face... it will become real! You will be shocked at the great things that happen when you never ever expect it. Good luck and keep plugging away.. you'll do great.

Answer 4

Take this as the opportunity of a lifetime. You can start over but you have to stop feeling guilty for not being at the place you think you should be. You CAN go back to school as there are a lot of loan programs and grants out there. Living well is the best revenge. Go back to school and become a psychiatrist or something. Go to school in a different state and expand your horizons. TRUST ME!.....you will meet the man of your dreams and you will have a rewarding life if you look at each day as a way to prepare for the future! Good luck (PS....I have been in your shoes....it does get better!)

Answer 5

First of all STOP feeling sorry for yourself. There are all kinds of student loans and grants for education. Are you getting spousal support from you ex?
Some loans don't have to be paid back until you graduate and grants don't have to be paid back at all.
Living with your parents sucks,but at least you don't have to pay rent do you? At $7.25/hr. you can help your parents with the extra utlities and food you consume.
Set up a list of priorties and a budget based on your income and make new friends,the rest will take care if itself with time.
And forget that suicide crap,thats the cowards way out.

Answer 6

If you don't have a relationship with God, please get one. When you get to really know the Lord nothing else will matter. And when you put all of your faith in him, he will provide all of your needs beyond your dreams, beyond any fantasy you've ever had. I was in a similar situation years ago. And it was crazy, i left him was the difference but, still on the same page. I was lost. And i had a son. But God turned it around. It took time and work...but i now have an amazing husband, a beautiful home and 3 great kids and i know God did that 4 me.

The Bible says that God will never put more on us than we can bare. We may not feel that way but, it's true. God, unlike man, will NEVER leave you. That's in the Bible too. Try it, what have you got to lose. B Blessed and stay strong, this to shall pass.

Answer 7

First -- go to your doctor ... you need therapy. There is not a man in the world worthy of attempting suicide over.

Living with parents may be difficult, but accept that you have a roof over your head as a blessing.

You work in the public limelight --- perfect place to source out a date ... get your flirt on .... get your smile back ..... and get on your way to happiness.

Answer 8

he is not worth you taking your life ! get a job ! life goes on & yes you can do anything you set your mind to & good luck ! beleive in yourself ! been there done that ! i am a cashier ! and i have a child !