I have an x-husband who won't leave me alone. He keeps wanting to drag me into court on a monthly basis for one thing or another...first he wanted custody of my son...son has drug problem and I have really bad nerves...so I gave him custody....my son's almost 17 and almost grown....the problem now, is that I'm unemployed, on the verge of being homeless, and my x-husband wants me to give him child support and go to parenting classes. My x-husband got re-married 2 years ago and should be moving on and leaving me the hell alone, but what does he do? He keeps on bothering me to the point now that it's affecting my health. I can't seem to get any good lawyer to help me and am seriously thinking of leaving the state for good to get on with what's left of my life...any suggestions before I go? Thank you.
2006-11-24 05:36:05 · 9 answers · asked by gimpstick_05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I worked at a law office for about a year. During that time I saw some really terrible behavior. It is obvious that your husband has some unresolved issue with you. However, he is entitled to some sort of support if he is the sole caretaker of your son. The support will be based on your income. If you make nothing, they can't take anything. If I was in your position I would probably leave to... However, if your son is having problems and if you love him at all, you should not abandon him. These problems you're having with you ex are not his fault. Leaving without a trace will more than likely have a very negative effect on him, I know, my mother left when I was 15 and stayed away because my father wouldn't leave her alone. She gave up, she couldn't take it. Now I don't blame her because I know the whole of what she went through and I have gained some perspective. When she was gone, I truly thought she didn't care about me. It hurt. I wish she had at least wrote to me or something.
Good Luck. I hope everything works out as best as it can.
2006-11-24 05:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by madcatlover7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, throw yourself into your work. Pay child support.
Get a roommate, and a life and if he hauls you into court, go without an attorney and do what the court demands of you. Just because you are female you are not above the law. Just think, this will be done soon as your son will turn 18 and you can completely avoid your ex at that point.
Be the best mother you can be in the time you have with your son. Send him cards that tell him you love him. Don't bad-mouth his dad, even if his dad bad-mouths you.
Believe in karma and that someday, everything your ex shelled out, he will get back. It may take weeks, it may take years, but know that it ALWAYS comes back. It took 13 years, but my ex finally got paid back for the things he did to me. I didn't have to lift a finger, so I have no guilt, and his suffering made me soooo happy. Makes me almost like his ex-wife.
But I wouldn't leave your kid. With a dad like that he really needs a good mom, just rise above the muck and be there with closed lips and open arms when he comes to you.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-24 05:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just as liable to pay child support as he would be if you had custody. Your son ls 17 but he is not grown....yet. Perhaps you need some counselling or at least some mental health help. Life is difficult at times, But running away usually doesn't sovle anything. When you get where you are going, you still wake up each morning and see the same face attached to the rest of your body.
2006-11-24 05:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can stick it out until your son reaches the age of 18,child support will not be an issue.
Even if you ex gets a support order now,it probably won't do any good until you get another job.
You might be able to get some kind of restraining order against him and try to sue him for your medical bills because of the stree he is causing you.
AS far as parenting classes-isn't it a bit late after 17 years. Your ex is just trying control you.
2006-11-24 05:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you husband is the one with the drug problem. If your son is 17 then it will be less than a year that he can get child support for him and how the court system is, by the time you get a court date he will be 18. I think that his new wife is putting him up to this and you shouldn't get upset or sick about it because this too shall pass and you'll prevail. Keep your head up and pray for strength!
2006-11-24 05:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully he persists because of the fact he remebers the day whilst he could administration you.. i'd particularly choose to have the potential to declare holiday it out it gets extra effective yet maximum circumstances like this they do no longer.. no longer understanding the point of violence this guy has im weary of giving any suggestion yet consistent with hazard a hazard of going to the police would stop it in case you have sufficient problems with him. Block the mail exchange your variety and desire thats the tip of it..
2016-10-04 07:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know wat do evreything you can ya go to court (enless you got somthin 2 hide)
but any way tell him and look him straight in the eye and say i'm a good mother to our son and watever you do you will never take that away....and if his B*chy wife says any thing slap the B*cht...!!
2006-11-24 05:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by LaShonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt have to read your details ANSWER: he still likes u or ANSWER 2: he likes to bother you and make u mad ( it has happend to me 5! X )
X= times
2006-11-25 02:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
RESTRAINING ORDER!!!!!!!
2006-11-24 05:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋