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Question

There Is this girl, her name is Joya and I have had a crush on her since I met her at the begining of the school year. I went out with this other girl Sam for almost 2 months, but then she chated on me with my friend Chris, we broke up shortly after that. That monday at school I asked Joya for some advice on how to tell if this girl I like likes me, I didn't use any names, she asked me what her personality is like so I started to discribe Joya to herself, not giving to much to away to let her know it was her. Then wednsday befor first period she told me that she didn't like guys, that she learned from her moms mistakes. After first period I told Joya how I felt about her, ok so I gave her a note that said how I felt. Then I walked the other way to my next class. I didn't stay long enough for her to read the note. I gave her my number in it so she could call me but so far nothing. Joya isn't the average girl, she is very energetic, wild, careing, ext.

she flirts with me at lunch and I flirt back. I'm just not shure if she likes me the way I like her. So if someone could give me some advice one what I should do or think, please help me.

Answer 1

Well if you r not sure that she likes u,the way u like her,Y don't u just ask her out in some kind of note. Or just wait a little, and play her game that she is playing with u. Wait till U guys become more closer as friends, love will take it's place. If she don't like you it's ok everything that happens has a cause.
Good
Luck, =]
P.S./When she said she don't like guys, maybe she said that b-cuz she dont't think u Like her the way she likes u. Hopes it all works out in a good way!!!~

Answer 2

I hate to say it but Joya may be unavailable to you or anyone right now. I don't know the context of the remark about "not liking guys" and learning from her mother's mistakes but that tells me that she is either:
A) Sexually confused and may believe she has lesbian leanings
B) She has some trust issues with males.

Either way that makes her unavailable for dating. I would be her friend and enjoy her company but would put any ideas of a romance aside for the time being.

Answer 3

So many girls have been abused or used or just seen friends and family be mistreated that they become very untrusting of guys. Saddly the reverse is true many of those abused girls only go after guys that abuse them. Or are like their daddy who abuses their mother because it is all they understand and expect.
Try to befriend this girl prove you are diffrent than what she knows she may come around if not then you have shown others you are the best "you" that they can find. But don't be a sap and get used either. That just leaves you bitter. with only your self to blame.