how painfull is labour?

Question

iam really scared as its my first i really dont know what to expect beause i have been told different every time.

Answer 1

Everyone is different and so is every pregnancy but in general labour pains are extremely painful but barable.
I have 8 children so I have a little experience in this are. Most all I have naturally with no medicine.
I have never had a pain free delivery but I have had quick ones.

Now if you are going with an epidural, I hear that get rid of most of the pain. But I have never had one so I can't speak from experience.

Answer 2

Please don't let others frighten you as you prepare to have your first child. Every single person is different, as we well know, your
labor could be short or long and it won't matter once you hold your precious child in your arms and see it look into your eyes.
I had only one child. I arrived at the hospital at 1:10 a.m. and delivered a 10 pound baby girl at 3:13 a.m. Truthfully, I didn't remember much at all. Just bits and pieces, no pain at all. That
doesn't mean that there wasn't any I just didn't remember it ever. Today's methods are probably much more sophisticated than I ever had those many years ago. My daughter is now grown and on her own. Just think of what it will be like when they first bring
your baby into your room and now for the first time in nine months you can look at the tiny toes and tiny fingers and dimpled
hands and little lips and smile knowing you and God had done a great job. Your husband will be more than thrilled and you just won't be able to wait to take that tiny one home. Be kind to that baby and love it with your whole heart. Never raise your voice or hand to that little one. Always try to remember that this is a brand new experience for your little one too. Love him or her and your life will be so filled that you will find yourself possibly wanting another child. I was unable to have anymore children, nothing wrong, it just didn't happen. So therefore I cherish my one and only. We never know do we?
Good luck with your delivery. Bless you and your family and your little one.
Goldenbird

Answer 3

Ermm How long is a piece of string ?? It all depends on the labour itself and your pain threshold. Nobody can tell you how it feels as each labour is different. I had my first baby 7 weeks ago, I used gas and air (a lot!!) and although I knew I was in agony it was like a dream, I felt very detached from the pain and hardly remember it now, and it is so worth it !! To be honest i didnt think much about the labour before hand and just went with it. Remember.. it is one day out of a life time, it will soon be over and you will have a beautiful baby at the end of it. Good luck and dont listen to other peoples horror stories. :)

Answer 4

ok look its going to be an experience only you can say, people will be quick to say its very painful it nearly killed me etcetera.
Im a guy so you probably think i have no idea and u are right but ill help where i can, i wont lie to you my partner was in pain, and yes she cried sobbed and screamed, that was how she dealt with it.
you will find out soon dont get worried you dont need the added stress, all i say is breathe through your contractions as these will hurt, and it will be very painful when you start to push, my advice is to use whatever pain relief you feel comfortable with, there is Gas and air, which makes you feel like ur drunk, you breathe it when contractions start and stop when they stop. pethadine which is a type of morphine it helps dull the pain but you will feel drowsy and sleepy through the labour, or you can have an epidural. you need to request this as early as possible so know what you want try getting a birth plan together make a list of how you want to expect your labour to go. there are 2 types of epidural a full spinal block which means you will be bed bound unable to move from the waist down or a mobile where you can move your legs.
so how painful is labour, Yes it hurts but will be woirth it at the end, dont worry though hunny.
Good luck i hope i have helped.
xxxxxx
keep me posted. i can be IM'd

Answer 5

You have been told different every time, because it is different for every woman, and each labor for the same woman can be totally different! It can be scary, but once you are in labor you go into a different world. It can be almost like an out of body experience, and you probably wont remember most of it.... I wont lie, it hurt pretty fricken bad for me, but I would have been ok if I would have been dilating correctly. I had to get induced after 12hrs of labor, that's when I asked for an epidural, because when you get induced, it makes it unnaturally painful.... otherwise, it is bearable, just concentrate on something in the room, don't let your mind wander, or you will feel out of control. try bringing a flower or something with you, just study it and concentrate on that, some women imagine a flower opening up. (it represents your cervix opening) But anything is fine, even a dot on the ceiling will help. and I know it's hard, but try to stay relaxed, if you are scared it will make you tense, and it will be harder. Expect a long labor, the first is usually the longest. Good Luck, and don't worry you will be fine!

Answer 6

Giving birth is very painful, it is probably the worst pain you will ever experience. You can opt for an epidural, that definitely helps with the pain. They will offer you other medications like Nadolol and Stadol- these don't really take the pain away they just make you feel like you are drunk and then you don't notice the pain so much. When the time to push draws near they will turn off your epidural so you can push better and that is when the real pain begins. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced, in fact, I kept telling my doctor that I couldn't do it because it was too painful, but she reassured me that if I concentrated and tried not to think about how painful it was, it would move along a lot faster and smoother. I just concentrated on getting my baby out so I could meet him/her and it really did help. It really is all worth it in the end. Just remember it maybe the most painful few hours of your life, but you will survive and you get an amazing child to love for the rest of your life! Good luck and be strong!!!

Answer 7

It hurts quite abit, but I managed with the gas and air which is great fun! I had a very long 'backache' labour for about 3 days and ended with an ambulance, epidural and ventuse. But I know alot of people who had no bother, and a very rare few who said it hardly hurt at all. Im onto my second now due in january, im starting to get a little scared now, but I have booked back into parentcraft classes for some reassurance. That may be a good idea. The main thing is, theres no turning back now, so whatever happens you will get through it. Just make the right choices for you on pain relief, and practice your breathing (didnt help me - but apparently it works well for alot of people) And remember - once youhave your little one in your arms I promise it will be worth every minute. Good luck!!! (wish me luck too! ;o)

Answer 8

Don't let people scare you or make you think you NEED an epdiural.

I'm due to have my first in two weeks time and I'm scared too, I'm not planning an epidural because the birth centre I'm going to doesn't provide them - only gas and air, pethidine and water and lots of support from your midwife - and in order to have one I will have to be transferred to the major hospital so I'm going to try and do it without one, I'm not just going to go straight there and ask for one, I'll try to gas and air and pethidine first and see how it goes. If I really need one I'll get transferred but I'm willing to try and work with the pain at first.

I know its going to be painful and I'm not scared of pain. I only worry about what would happen if the labour was very long drawn out because after a while it would obviously get hard to deal with the pain.

Don't just have an epidural straight away. See how you go first. there are lots of ways of managing pain without having morphine injected directly into your spinal column! Try different ways to cope first and then ask for an epidural if you can't cope and your midwife feels you need one.

And don't listen to peoples' stupid scare stories! Find someone who had a positive labour experience and listen to them. Even if yours isn't positive it will at least make you feel better in the run up to know that it doesn't always have to be a terrible experience. Otherwise you get hung up on these horrible terrifying stories and spend your pregnancy dreading labour, and it shouldn't be like that.

Good luck! Lets hope we both get through it!

Answer 9

I have 4 children and expecting number 5 in the next few weeks and even now i don't know what to expect because every labour is different! I can say after you hold your newborn it is all very quickly forgotten about and my last son was born by c section even though it was painful at first having my baby in arms helped heal the wounds!
Just go with the flow and the best of luck to you

Answer 10

Idoubt if anyone can tell you how painful labour actually is. Yes it hurts but once you have that beautiful baby in your arms you wonder what the fuss was all about. Ive had 4 children and can honestly say its not as bad as some women make it out to be. There are painkillers now that help combat the pain anyway so its not that bad. Good luck hun and hope everything goes well for you, if it was that bad then women wouldnt go and have more babies would they xxxxxxxx