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I am assertive and outspoken..I will TACTFULLY tell you what is on my mind....if I get bad service from a company I ask to speak to a supervisor.If I am at the supermarket and I see someone with a full cart in the express line and I have one item I POLITELY ask, "Do you mind if I go ahead of you, this is the express line?" If the phone rings and I am eating or busy ..I screen the call.I do not run out of the bathroom to answer the phone. If unexpected visitors show up (I hate that) I TACTFULLY tell them it is not a good time.When my BF got his driver lisence suspended due to not paying a ticket, I refused to be his 24/7 chauffer on call. I have a few causes I feel passionately about, that I will donate to or volunteer for, but at my job there is volunteer work or donations requested of the employees every week, and I have no problem refusing if it is something I do not feel strongly about..How unusual is all this? I have been called selfish, a b*tch, etc.

2006-11-24 04:21:33 · 13 answers · asked by Melissa 2 in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

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huh? assertive women have been around forever. we just have more of them now. i think that's a good thing. if you're also tactful then that just means you're polite and a nice person as well. who doesn't like a nice person? the real problem isn't that you had to ask, "may i go infront of you. i have only one item." it was that they didn't ask you to. the problem wasn't that you said i won't be your 24/7 driver. it was that he wasn't responsible enough to pay his fine and then not have to impose on another. the problem wasn't that you had to tell unexpected guest that you were busy. it was that they were so inconsiderate and assuming.
b*tch is definitly not the right word for you. i think it should be..... hmmmm? "unused/rational/fair" yes, i like "fair" the best. fair to others and most of all and importantly, fair to yourself.

2006-11-24 04:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

As long as you are truly polite, not just think you are, then hell : kudos to you girl. I know there are times when I've swallowed my irritation for the sake of being "nice" Anyway, I'm pretty fed up, so I'm on your side for sure.
As for the BF, good on ya for not being his b***
The only prob that I could see in your future, is people not doing favours for you, or not coming over, basically dropping you.
There should be some times that you let go of your rules, for the sake of friendship.
Relax a bit, sometimes people are worth the small sacrifices

2006-11-24 04:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0 0

If you are doing this with tact, than no one should be calling you selfish, --tch,etc.....

Sometimes we see ourselves differently from what others see us. Do you think that maybe you might be a little nasty about it?

I have a coworker that says that she is assertive, but quite honestly she is very nasty.
She admits that she has to get the last word in no matter what the situation is. She was in a financial crunch and guess who she had to ask for help from, that is correct, all the people on the job she was nasty to. If I am wrong about you than I apologize, but if I am not wrong than please check yourself and be nice about your assertiveness.

2006-11-24 04:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0 0

I love assertive, outspoken women, provided that they also have a sense of grace, generousity of spirit and empathy for others.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with asserting your rights or personhood. ...As long as your rights and personhood isn't the first and last consideration in all circumstances.

We are not meant to live independantly. Rather we are meant to be interdependant. We are communal beings and we need to be aware that each one of us, including ourselves, depend on the graciousness and tolerance of others. If we were perfect, we wouldn't need to be concerned about that, but none of us are.

2006-11-24 04:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I adore dominant women. To me, and for many many men, there is nothing quite as fulfilling as serving, obeying and worshipping a Goddess, both in and out of the bedroom. As the days progress, I am hoping you will find great and intense pleasure in having a submissive male at your feet, devoted entirely to serving your every wish..

2016-03-29 07:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Ignore the negativity that spews like a backed up toilet from the mouths of morons sweetheart, you just go on being yourself, and you will surely be endowed with the respect that you deserve from others that have good senses, thus if I were among your friends, I'd be honored by your presence...

2006-11-24 04:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You're describing an aspect of a woman I definitely want in my life!
I want and NEED to know what you think, want, like, and don't like. My powers of ESP just aren't what they used to be....
There's more I would need to take into consideration, certainly.
I'm guessing this aspect of you will have an impact on your friendships, probably already has.
I, personally, would rather NOT be with a doormat.
Good ON ya, girl!

2006-11-24 04:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by WindWalker10 5 · 0 0

What can an outspoken woman bring to my life? Agression? I don't need it.

I like a bit of spirit in bed [and sometimes a bit of submisiveness] but apart from that what use is it?

Do you want an outspoken and assertive man? Well it works two ways.

2006-11-24 04:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Put_ya_mitts_up 4 · 0 2

I like assertive women. I also like a woman who isn't afraid to tell me what's on her mind and will stand up to me when disagreeing with my point of view.

2006-11-24 04:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I love assertive dominate women.

2006-11-24 04:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by up2nogood23337 2 · 0 0

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