I have been crushed for, literally, the 7th time in just 5 years by...?

Question

...well I loved this girl in my English class but was just shoved off. Every girl I try to become friends with, thinks I am stalking them because before recently, I was just a little speck in the middle of nowhere. I have tried to find a friend for the last 10 years but not one person I have ever met in my school years has actually liked me. I thought that not lusting after a girl every 5 minutes, trying to get to know a girl, trying to speak to a girl was what a girl wanted. I thought a girl wanted someone to love them for who they are and not for their body. But now, I see that even if I do have moral values, I am rejected again, to forever wander this Earth alone, maybe for another 10 years or longer. I am in Grade 10 yet I have never had a friend. They would swear at me every time I tried to talk to them. Or they would be nice to me when ever a teacher was present and then scoff at the thought of me sitting within 50 feet of them. What am I to do?

I have no friend in the world. I have been shunned, persecuted, judged because I am moral and they are not, any good kids who come along are quickly demoralized before I have a chance to talk to them, I am always joked about and because I am not a person who would go and jump into bed with every other girl, because I do not have very good social skills with others outside of my family, they think that I am stupid because I am not shallow, I do have feelings, I do feel the need to find a love. I have not been kissed by a girl before and no girl would even touch me if their life depended upon it. Once, my class had to get away from the school because of a fire drill. It meant climbing a slick, iced over hill. I tried to reach out and help some of my classmates but they slapped me and they eventually punched me because I tried to help them. One tripped and broke his arm, I later heard him say to another kid it was better than being helped by some phsyco. Where am I to turn now?

I have read the responses but every time I try to be nice to anyone, even if isn't for friendship, they don't listen to me. They just do not care what I say to them, whether it be good or bad or whether or not I am even there...

BUT, does everyone go through this "phase" for 10 years, their entire child hood?!!

Answer 1

I don't think you should should try to find any friends, just be a nice guy, treat people w/respect. Most people will respond good to that, I know some don't, but that's their loss. You see firsthand how they treat people, why would you want to be their friend? Just be patient, they'll come around, just don't be looking for them.

Answer 2

Keep your morals first of all, and then stop trying so hard. Just be yourself. People who try too hard appear desperate most of the time. I am guessing you are 16 years old. This is an awkward age for guys. Not really a young kid but certainly not an adult either. RELAX, enjoy yourself. Believe it or not having a girlfriend is not the most important thing right now, it will happen when you least expect it. Just be friendly and soon enough you will have friends. If they scoff just smile and say Whatever, and walk away .That will get their attention faster than trying too hard. You sound like a great guy to me. Hang in there and do not give up.

Answer 3

These girls might think that you're clingy. Just say what's up every now and then.. eventually they'll talk to you. Don't try to make conversation with them every chance that you get. Girls.. guys.. and lust. She might want you to compliment her.. maybe you should tell her that she looks nice today... you like her shirt. The people who swear at you and what not.. well be an asz hole right back. Act as if you're better than them. Never let them know that you know that they even exist. Turn your head.. avoid them. GET YOURSELF A LADY!!! Find a girl who is also an outkast.. get to know her. You'll find that you both have a lot in common.. and most likely develope a very good friendship with her. It doesn't actually have to be a girl, after all you just want a friend. Right?

Answer 4

You're in the training ground now, and it's tough, but you need all this experience. If you do not learn to weather the ups and downs of social activity, and social rejection, you won't be ready for the years to come. If you don't make mistakes and learn from them, you won't be "cool" later in life. Give yourself time, and don't be discouraged. Everyone goes through this during a lifetime---and, many people who seem to be super-stars in High School are dimwits in College, or Jobs, and vice-versa.
Try to conform "generally" to the norm of the kids in your school---re: dress, grooming, interests. Give these "conformities" a try, even if you reject them later in life.
BUT - don't try to please people (except your teachers!). Be true to yourself---if you worry about pleasing everyone, you will please no one. You have a right to be there, a right to exist, a right to be yourself. Everyone has a place in the scheme of things, and your special qualities are needed.
At the end of the day (and life) you will end up alone with yourself, so be true to yourself.
The most important thing in life is to hang on to your unique self---it's extremely hard to do.