What is the best way for somebody to be themselves?

Question

The reason why I ask this question, is because I would like to hear different opinions on this topic. With so much pressure in the media, from work, our peers, maybe family... I am interested to find out what you did to combat these issues and how you apply that in present day...

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Answer 1

It is all a matter of confidence. If you know what you want, realise what is best for you and exerce your own judgement, you can listen to advice, criticism, or publicity and either ignore it or take it into account but do your own thing. It is so sad to see all these women who follow a fashion or a trend slavishly when it does not suit them at all or who pretend to be something that they are not to try to impress others.
Where we live young women (ladettes?) gather in great numbers and challenge one another to drink and drink at the week-end. They get completely plastered to be "in with the crowd" then go and relieve themselves in shop doorways or are sick in bus shelters. They just do not realise how pathetic they look and that the boys who are there are not in the least impressed.
I believe that in due course they will realise the pointlessness of what they are doing and will seek more civilised pastimes.

Answer 2

Be true to yourself.
Yes there is peer pressure, but it is also pressure as you get older.
Some people have a fear of wanting to belong to a certain group, people, church, etc......

A church I was attending was that way. I will not name the woman that seemed to have everyone spell bound, She has natural leadership skills, good at decorating, setting up activities=(such as bowling,picnics,bus trips,etc.) Even though she has these talents she is very rude to people. When I brought this the the pastor's attention, he says that he knows that this is true but she is good at all the above things that I named and that be nice to her and God will change her. Well, it has been 3 years and he has lost a lot of church members including me and he has talked to her about it and she still is nasty.

I feel strongly that if you do not tell someone that they are nasty because you are worried about hurting them than tough, because in the long run it will help them. This woman says that people are jealous of her, the 17 people that left the church can't be jealous of her. It is time for her wake up call.

As you are being yourself please do not try to hurt anyone......

Answer 3

Rid yourself of all thoughts, as if waking from sleep, and look at each day and each experience from that perspective.
As you navigate through the myriad of illusions that life saddles you with, you discover that your self created haste to be a part of the human wheel at large is an empty ploy to harness your energies to make money for somebody else.
Watch, analyze and make a conscious choice of either perpetuating those games, or staying on with a watchful eye on the sidelines for your own opportunities.

Answer 4

Do not try to impress, nor create exaggerations in attempts to make yourself appear above or better than others, do not watch nor listen to mainstream media, BS from co-workers, moronic peers, and egotistical family members, thus learn by listening to those that base discussion upon facts and logic, humor, and that are respectful of all life, so long as said life portrays and responds likewise with respect toward you:)

Answer 5

Easy just be yourself, why would you want to be anyone elsa. You are you, a one off person, noone on the planet can be you except you. We all have to cope with the above in your question but that do not stop us from being areselves, why should it. If you mean should you stand up for yourself do so by all means, you live in a free country, just remember that.

Answer 6

If you have 'Found' Yourself I would just say... Be true to yourself... Know your purpose (why YOUR here on this earth... what you have to contribute).... And don't let anyone or anything come between you and your purpose....

If someone isn't in your life to support every thing you want to do (thats anything to support your dreams, not material) than you need to ask.. "Why are we friends?" If I can't contribute positively to your life, and you can't do the same for me.... What is it exactly that we have in common?

Long story short... You only know how to be you... Find Yourself, and become your own best friend....

Answer 7

Learn to be true to you. The best way to be yourself - there is no such thing sweetie. You are you....just be. Don't worry about what others think. Know that you have amazing qualities, and that is all that matters. You are one of a kind. Just be. Know that you are unique. Use daily affirmations if you need to, but there is no real way to be yourself...you already are yourself. Follow your heart and guts.

Answer 8

Accept that only thing you can do
is do the very best that you can with the knowledge and wisdom that you have at this time in your life.
Accept that in the past you did what you thought was best at that time, using the wisdom that you had at that place in your life.

Answer 9

i think you should do a gruelling challenge on your own ,and that way ,you get to know yourself really well . you get to see all you re weakness and all so your strong points , and use them in everyday life .. thus making you a stronger person ..and you can be the real you !

Answer 10

I`m just myself... but it`s often not good for me. The point is that you really have not to care what other people think about you. That`s all :D and good luck.