I am a 19 years old college student,without girlfriend(only because I am not attractive enough). For a long time,I am eager to get married. I am not pretty why. But I know I am not able to. I try to forget it, but it's difficult. I still can't help thinking about the silly idea.
2006-11-24 03:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by Jason 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So you are fixated on an idea instead of a person?
Turn off the computer and go meet some people. You need a good dose of socialization.
Don't worry over much about being attractive, that just attracts other guys.
2006-11-24 03:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on other things in your life. like college, schoolwork. If you get married now and live till your 100 then you'll have had 81 years of being married and 19 years of being single.
Live your current life and know there will always be the future, but your not there yet. You will have something to look forward to, getting married.
As for you "not being attractive enough" when you meet the right women she will like you for you not your looks or she may believe that you are attractive.
2006-11-24 03:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married, but you have to realize that marriage is not the happily ever after from fairy tales. Getting married would not guarantee that you would be happy. So why don't you start smaller, and try to find a date. Don't be so critical of your looks. Even if you don't look especially good, it's the kind of person you are that matters. Just try to make some female friends and maybe something will develop from that. Good luck!
2006-11-24 05:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not a silly idea. It's a very good one. Most men your age are more interested in sleeping around and partying than finding a woman who would make a good wife. This is an admirable way to be thinking, and if you're a decent guy, you will marry a nice woman. Eventually we (women) get tired of the jerky ones and fall for the men who will be good husbands.
2006-11-24 03:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way is to talk with several people who ARE married. You probably have some fantasy idea of what marriage is like that is no way close to reality.
2006-11-24 04:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have no self-esteem. You can't begin to love someone or even have a successful relationship until you value yourself.
Go to your college's clinic and begin therapy with the school's psychologist. You need to talk through these issues...
2006-11-24 03:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient - one day someone will notice you, get to know you really well and then perhaps marriage. My son went through something similar to this years ago; a married friend had a kid and my son wanted one. I told him - it's just not your time right now. Find someone you truly love and wish to spend the rest of your life with, get married and then have the kid you want so bad. He did just this and now he has his kid and he's perfectly happy.
It just all takes time.
2006-11-24 03:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Probably the thought of marriage is coming in ur mind for reasons ranging from acceptance and support from ur mate as well as for a social recognition.The root cause is u've a low self image of urself.Try to be social,more active and independent.Marriage is not just romance and dinner.It comes much later in life,rather it should ideally.
2006-11-24 04:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about your education and the career that will follow. Focus on making something out of that above all, and you might lose some of those crazy ideas.
2006-11-24 03:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just remember, the grass is always greener on the other side, UNTIL you have to mow that 'ish!
AND . . .
if you honestly believe you are THAT ugly, the last thing you need is a spouse trying to convince you that you are NOT UGLY.
Work on your self-esteem. . . .
2006-11-24 04:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋